Rollercoaster emotions

[silverbeatle]

What can I say? This has been the worse break up in my life. .

I've was dating my ex fiance for 3.5 years.. One day she moved to Texas, and wanted us to start a life there. (we are from california) after a month she broke it off because she said i was insecure of her going out all the time with random "guy friends" All of a sudden she started seeing someone and having sex. She told me. I was hurt. I couldn't get up in the morning. But at the same time she would tell me she loved me and was still in love with me. Everyday she would text me about how she misses me. And would call me on the phone. Then she started to sleep with another guy after 2months in the break up. I haven't slept with anyone yet. I've been to self conscious about it. I haven't even tried or remotely to go out and see other people. After 4 months after the break up she calls me up and tells me she wants to work things out. Because she noticed that some girls were paying attention to me. I still haven't slept with anyone or kissed anyone. She wanted to come back to California from Texas and start again. So we both agreed we will start again and love each other and trust each other..So I started to make plans for her to come back.. A week in, she calls me up and said she slept with someone else, a 3rd guy. I was devasted, I got mad and was torn. I cut off all ties from her and mean while she would ask me for money and financial help while she was sleeping with these guys. So what I did was to start going out on dates and started to have sexual relationships with other women. I wanted to feel wanted. Sexually and physically feel wanted. After two months of that she started to contact me again to work things out. I hesitated, but we started to flirt a bit more on the phone and through text messages. And I flew to Texas to see her.. Everything went fine we got back to together.. But she started to do that again. Going out with random guys and getting drunk everyday. We started arguing and she broke it off and that same day she slept with someone else. Now I don't want to sleep with anyone. I feel that I need to regroup my emotions. But I ask myself why the constant change. When she states i'm the love of her life. And that will never change but she's going out with other men and sleeping with them. I feel so bruised and empty. BTW she's 27 and i'm 37. I tried working things out, but she always throws in my face the women I slept with during the break up. And when I've asked her and confronted her about her physical past she turns it around..

[Chi townD]

This relationship is too toxic. You need to start a hard NC on her. Block her on Facebook. Ignore ALL texts and let all phonecalls go to voicemail. Do not answer at all no matter how desperate they sound. If she threatens her life or something stupid like that, contact her parents or siblings immediately, but you stay clear of her.

 

I mean, come on dude, she gets in a fight with you and within HOURS of that fight she's screwing some other dude? That's not love, man.

 

Start to work on yourself. You don't have to date until you feel ready to do so. Nothing wrong with being single for a while.

 

Time to heal and move on. Post here if she contacts you and you feel like responding. Don't respond, post here instead.

[nugget_718]

What can I say? This has been the worse break up in my life. .

I've was dating my ex fiance for 3.5 years.. One day she moved to Texas, and wanted us to start a life there. (we are from california) after a month she broke it off because she said i was insecure of her going out all the time with random "guy friends" All of a sudden she started seeing someone and having sex. She told me. I was hurt. I couldn't get up in the morning. But at the same time she would tell me she loved me and was still in love with me. Everyday she would text me about how she misses me. And would call me on the phone. Then she started to sleep with another guy after 2months in the break up. I haven't slept with anyone yet. I've been to self conscious about it. I haven't even tried or remotely to go out and see other people. After 4 months after the break up she calls me up and tells me she wants to work things out. Because she noticed that some girls were paying attention to me. I still haven't slept with anyone or kissed anyone. She wanted to come back to California from Texas and start again. So we both agreed we will start again and love each other and trust each other..So I started to make plans for her to come back.. A week in, she calls me up and said she slept with someone else, a 3rd guy. I was devasted, I got mad and was torn. I cut off all ties from her and mean while she would ask me for money and financial help while she was sleeping with these guys. So what I did was to start going out on dates and started to have sexual relationships with other women. I wanted to feel wanted. Sexually and physically feel wanted. After two months of that she started to contact me again to work things out. I hesitated, but we started to flirt a bit more on the phone and through text messages. And I flew to Texas to see her.. Everything went fine we got back to together.. But she started to do that again. Going out with random guys and getting drunk everyday. We started arguing and she broke it off and that same day she slept with someone else. Now I don't want to sleep with anyone. I feel that I need to regroup my emotions. But I ask myself why the constant change. When she states i'm the love of her life. And that will never change but she's going out with other men and sleeping with them. I feel so bruised and empty. BTW she's 27 and i'm 37. I tried working things out, but she always throws in my face the women I slept with during the break up. And when I've asked her and confronted her about her physical past she turns it around..

 

Why would you want to stay with a girl who seemed to not have any ounce of respect for you? She is manipulative, a user...I could go on with other not so nice words apt for her behavior. Only you can stop the cycle from happening over and over.