sol0420 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I had a boyfriend of 10 months and even though at the beginning it was amazing, things kept falling apart during the last three months. I live with my family and so they didn't really like him, something he knew but never tried to do anything about it. This was why we ended up seeing each other for three months after without my family knowing. I asked him to do something about it and he said he would. He has a kid with an ex of his, and I have always had a problem with it but never really expressed it straight out to him, I expressed feelings of jealously not only towards that but everything he did. On a Saturday night, to a party I had not invited him to, he came while I was buzzed and took me with him,( we had been fighting and broke it off once again) I do love him and thought he would want to remediate the situation but we ended up having sex, I cannot remember half of what happened that night. I felt awful and hated him for doing this. Next thing I know, he calls me but I don't answer and tell him to leave me alone, to which he replies he will but that he just wanted to say that I might need a plan b pill. I was furious and said he would have to buy it for me for me, since I had done so many other times before. He sai he would but when I go to pick it up at his place he just says he doesn't have it. I tell him that if he wants to be irresponsible ok, I am still not gonna take anything on my own and if something does happen he will have to help me take care of it and abort. He became furious about this and told me how dare I threaten him and he said he had enough of it. He doesn't want me in his life, especially for being jealous and attacking his baby's mother. to which I literally cracked down for, he cares so much about her, why was he with me in the first place. Thing is we haven't spoke to each other in a month, casually saw each other once driving. But that is it. Now Im late and I did a pregnancy test which turned out positive. I don't know what to do. I haven't told him but im planning to do so. This is just not the life and family I planned and desired to have. I seriously thought of abortion and I don't know what to do. I feel so depressed, and more because my family doesn't like him, because he already has a child with another woman, because I would take him back as a partner but because I know I do not want him back just because of the child I will have with him, but because he loves me. any advice is greatly appreciated
FebruaryAmor Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 do whats bests for YOU dont think about the father. he is not a factor anymore.
CaliBabe Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I'm sorry but why would you depend on him to get you a plan B pill. You get it for yourself if need be. At this point, you need to do what is best for you.
Njeanne Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 You're not his girlfriend anymore, so stop depending on him for anything. You should've bought the pil not him, it just shows he doesn't care since he didn't bother buying it. It is your choice if you wish to keep the baby or not, but heh would be strange to know he has two childs with two different women...that guy really needs to grow up and become more responsible.
aisuru Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 You need to take responsibility for your actions. I hear you blaming him a lot for your predicament. Your body, your choice. By not being on birth control or taking the Plan B pill, you are now dealing with a major life decision. You have nobody to blame but yourself. I had an abortion after getting pregnant while on the pill. It was an emotionally heart wrenching experience, but was the right choice for me in my situation. I wish you all the best in determining what is best for you.
BustedUpInside Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 If he is not dependable now, he is probably not suddenly going to become a reliable adult. Therefore, you have to make all the decisions, and he does not get a vote until he can demonstrate that he will be there for you regardless of the choice you make.
flitzanu Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 my advice is to stop using an unborn baby as leverage for money or a relationship. at this point it's now your decision to either keep it or abort it. he seems pretty clear about his feelings about it. 1
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