nascarjr Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 So I've been dating my girlfriend for 7 months and we had something come up yesterday. She told me that her feelings for me haven't really grown over the past couple of months. We only get to see each other once a week and she told me yesterday that sometimes she is fine with that and that she shouldn't feel that way about seeing me. She is 24 and said she is looking for that one person to spend the rest of her life with and she doesn't think that person is me. I asked her if she was afraid of losing me and she said part of her is and the other part she doesn't know. I've told her before that I love her and she has said it back so I asked her yesterday if she meant it when she said it and she said in the moment she does but sitting there yesterday she didn't know. She said doesn't know what is going on with her mind. She mentioned yesterday that all her friends were getting engaged or married. I asked her if we could work on it to make our bond stronger like it was before because I can't see her feelings just stopping. I think she just has a lot on her mind and is not thinking clearly. We have decided to go on a break for a little while so she can gather her thoughts because she says she does have feelings for me and she does care for me she doesn't see me in her future right now. I just don't know what to do because she is my first girlfriend and I'm 21 and have waited to find her because she is everything that I have wanted. She told me yesterday that I have great qualities that she is looking for and she does care about me I just don't what this means or how to move on from here.
London Girl 8 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I can tell you from my experience being in your 20's you want to experience dating don't rush into anything and if she really liked you she would know for sure. I would say take the break and maybe see other people because you don't want her to start taking you for granted.
Phantom888 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I got married when I was 23, and it was a mistake. I was too young. My wife was 26, but she was not right for me. You really need to spend more time seeing other people, and not get bogged down seriously at that age. You are gonna be a completely different person in 15 years, so there is no point in searching for a permanent partner right now. You will realize that even you preferences in women will change.
mortensorchid Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I can tell you that you are both in different mindsets at this moment. You are in your twenties. I think when you are in that early/mid twenties time you are still discovering who you are and what you are all about, some of that includes not being very serious about others or yourselves. You said that you like her. That's the end of the story for you, uncomplicated. She is telling you (directly or indirectly) that she is looking for that life partner and she's not feeling it for you after being with her for 7 months. She is also telling you that her friends are getting married/engaged, and that's what she wants. I'm not saying you should, but if you were to ask her tomorrow to marry you, what would she say? I am guessing she would say no. Just something to stew on.
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