sc1984 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Hey all! Just wanted to put this one out here as would like to hear some feedback. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. We didn't meet in the best circumstances - I had recently left my husband and was in a bit of a whirlwind of partying, drinking far too much and basically rebelling against everything I had just left. I met my current boyfriend on one of these evenings and we have been together ever since - not always a smooth ride as I had a few issues to work through following leaving my marriage. He's always been supportive and has never pried into my reasons for leaving or marriage - as he rightly points out, it was nothing to do with him. We spend every night together and are planning to find a place together at the end of the month. I'm blissfully happy - of course we argue like any other couple but nothing out of the ordinary. He is not the most sociable of people and has one or two very close friends, and is very close to his family. I'm the complete opposite where my friends are more like my family and I enjoy an active social life. He met my parents and brother after a year or so of us being together, but has still not met my friends. This was a huge deal for me in the past, and resulted in some major arguments between us. As time has gone on I have chilled out about it - he has no qualms with me going out so I just go to things solo and have a great time. However, my friends are adamant they need to meet him and have accused me of living a double life. When we first got together I wasn't mentally in a very good state, and blamed a lot of this on him, which in hindsight was obviously wrong but at the time I was too frightened to admit I was the real issue. Unfortunately this is the impression a lot of my friends will not get over, no matter how happy they see me. I've also never told my partner this as I think it would really hurt him, and doesn't need to be said. I'm a bit in between a rock and a hard place - I would love for everyone to get along but at the same time I'm perfectly happy with the way things are. Any thoughts appreciated as I try to muddle along with this one!
Emilia Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 However, my friends are adamant they need to meet him and have accused me of living a double life. When we first got together I wasn't mentally in a very good state, and blamed a lot of this on him, which in hindsight was obviously wrong but at the time I was too frightened to admit I was the real issue. Unfortunately this is the impression a lot of my friends will not get over, no matter how happy they see me. I've also never told my partner this as I think it would really hurt him, and doesn't need to be said. Then come clean to your friends and tell them! They can see that you are out and about so it's not like he is controlling you. Why would he need to prove himself to them? What unnecessary drama! I'm a bit in between a rock and a hard place - I would love for everyone to get along but at the same time I'm perfectly happy with the way things are. Any thoughts appreciated as I try to muddle along with this one! Not really, this is your own making so sort it out. Tell your friends to back off because you are happy as you are. If they take issue with that they are not your friends. 1
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