Yourenogood Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I was talking to this guy for about 3 weeks and he used to message me every morning and we would talk into the night, we didn't get along that much well he really liked me but i felt nothing for him. He was starting to get really clingy so I told him that I got back with my ex and that we wouldn't speak anymore (I know I'm a bad person) 2 months later he messages me on Facebook asking if I'm still with my bf and like an idiot i said that we broke up. The kid slipped back into his old ways and doesn't stop messaging I haven't replied and every day he sends a message on kik saying hello Like I thought he would get the point but now he reactivated Facebook and I can't pretend I'm not on that. I told him the school confiscated my phone but now he'll start messaging me on fb I don't want to be mean buy how can I get the kid to leave me alone without hurting his feelings I've had enough!! Ps: I'm not good with confrontation
Roadkill007 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 get better with confrontation? Doesn't mean you have to kick him in the balls figuratively, but you gotta stand up and push back if you feel he's violating your boundaries. It'll be a learning experience for him too, so maybe next time he won't annoy a romantic prospect to a point where she wants to just not interact with him.
skydiveaddict Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 why don't you just tell him you're not interested in having a relationship.
Maleficent Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I was talking to this guy for about 3 weeks and he used to message me every morning and we would talk into the night, we didn't get along that much well he really liked me but i felt nothing for him. He was starting to get really clingy so I told him that I got back with my ex and that we wouldn't speak anymore (I know I'm a bad person) 2 months later he messages me on Facebook asking if I'm still with my bf and like an idiot i said that we broke up. The kid slipped back into his old ways and doesn't stop messaging I haven't replied and every day he sends a message on kik saying hello Like I thought he would get the point but now he reactivated Facebook and I can't pretend I'm not on that. I told him the school confiscated my phone but now he'll start messaging me on fb I don't want to be mean buy how can I get the kid to leave me alone without hurting his feelings I've had enough!! Ps: I'm not good with confrontation Stop stringing the guy alone and tell him you do not want to talk to him once and for all. If you don't want a confrontation just send him an email.
Author Yourenogood Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Why wud u talk to him for 3 weeks into the night? Ohh trust me I was being dry the guy just always has something to say and questions to ask
KatZee Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Yeah, I mean you gave the guy serious mixed signals. No one sits online with anyone for 3 weeks straight talking into the night if there's no interest there, no matter how "dry" you think you were being. I have a guy like this and he always makes inappropriate comments, asks me to date, says we should hook up, etc etc. Do you want to know what our chat log looks like? Him: 3/15/2013: Hey Him: 3/17/2013: Yo Him: 3/21/2013: Whats up? Him: 3/25/2013: You look hot in your new fb pictures. I'd do you. haha Him: 3/28/2013: Hi And it goes on and on and on. As you can tell, there are never responses from me. I don't lead him on, engage with convo, text him, or any of those things you're doing to this guy. I've even flat out told him I'd never hook up with him and that he has no chance. You better learn how to be "confrontational" because you can't go about your life just making up lies. Say you're not looking for a relationship and be done with it.
umirano Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Thanks for this example KatZee. Several things we all can learn from this... I as a guy, e.g. find it hard to believe that there are actually guys who are so ... idk... so stubborn, dull, lacking self respect, lacking respect for the girl to text this way. Otoh, this tactic must work with some girls. So we also learn that there are girls who can actually be brought to bed with moronic talk like this. Interesting. Of people in my circles I couldn't think of one. But I'd like to know one one day... What else is there? Oh, some girls get those texts while in relationships. Decent girls, imo, tell the bugger to shove it, block him and delete him. And others keep them around, eventually cheat on their bf with those guys. And the single girls, as we can see in this particular case, sometimes don't have it either in their hearts, or brains, or in neither, to tell the dude to feck off. I can't say I feel much sympathy with them. Just pity.
pteromom Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Don't respond to him. If he gets pushy or persistent, block him. The best solution of course is just to tell him he seems like a nice guy but you are not interested in friendship or more.
Roadkill007 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Him: 3/15/2013: Hey Him: 3/17/2013: Yo Him: 3/21/2013: Whats up? Him: 3/25/2013: You look hot in your new fb pictures. I'd do you. haha Him: 3/28/2013: Hi .... I threw up a little inside my mouth..... 1
ascendotum Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 .... I threw up a little inside my mouth..... Well I reading that chat log. No wazzup though. At least with txt its easy to ignore and also easy for a lazy/playa guy to put a bid in. OP - learn to handle confrontation because you will get guys you are not interested in hitting on you whenever you are single, just like guys need to learn to handle rejection. If you want to avoid it for the time being, tell him you are broken hearted & depressed and having a break from guys for a quiet a while.
mortensorchid Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Unfortunately it depends on the person you are talking to. The "ignore it and it will go away" routine usually works, but there are those who are clueless. If you have someone clueless then you have to be direct and say no to them. It's like if you are dealing with a stalker. If you are the one who is being stalked, you must say no to the person once, only once, then walk away and never speak again. I had one years ago who was clueless. After a ridiculous mishap with our first meeting for an Internet date, he called me a few months later and apologized for it. I accepted his apology for it, thinking that was that, but he kept calling me for almost six months afterward. Sometimes he would call me from up to 10 different numbers in a row, never once leaving a voice mail message. I never once returned any of his calls. Then one day I picked up the phone and he said who he was, then I said "Please don't call me anymore", then hung up. And never heard from him again. I felt a bit sorry for him, but he was also bothering me.
shexy Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Just tell him you're not interested - don't keep chit chatting with him, that just encourages him.
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