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I have been dating this guy for about 2.5 month now. So far everything was going well. We spend weekends together and had a wonderful time. He has been honest, caring and truly showed me he wants me in his life.

 

Out of the blue last night he told me that he had worries that he does not feel the same way about me as I feel about him .

 

He also told me he had a friend (a girl) that he thinks about and he thinks it is not fair to me to be thinking about this girl and being with me.

 

He told me that he is not sure if me and him are meant to be and that he needs a little time to sort this all out. He told me he does not want to hurt me.

 

I am thankful that he is open enough to tell me all these things instead of going behind my back.

 

It is easy to give advice when I am not in the situation however it is a different story when it now affects my life.

 

I know that if he truly wants to be with me, he won't allow anyone else to come into his life like that. So I told him that he has to find out what he wants, I won't wait or compete with someone else, however I will keep the door open.

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So I told him that he has to find out what he wants, I won't wait or compete with someone else, however I will keep the door open

 

Good for you, girl!

 

I think sometimes people get it into their head that "proving" their love for someone means being their doormat, instead of standing strong on principal, then they can't understand why someone walks all over them.

 

By letting him know that you are interested in -- but not bound to -- him, you're telling him that the ball's in his court and that he must actively decide, not string you along.

 

Don't waver no matter how much you want this to work out. He'll respect you all the more for standing your ground.

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TY so much for your advice.

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