i no longer miss my ex, but i've started missing my first love again

[calgary]

is that normal ? can anybody relate to that ? I haven't seen my first love in over 4 years.

 

she deleted me from facebook at some point in 2010.

 

we'll probably never talk or see each other ever again, it just ended drastically and for no real reason, I never knew what went wrong. I left and I think it destroyed her. she couldn't cope with being separated for months at a time.

 

we were so young too. it was hard.

 

basically, I think I have deep down issues, where I try and go for girls similar to her, that aren't her. i loved everything about her and i think i base all of my attractions to other girls on similar traits to hers sub consciously.

 

 

i don't know if anybody can relate. i keep having vivid dreams with her in lately and it's confusing me. i feel like i want to send her a friend request and catch up with her.. but at the same time i feel like it's best to leave her alone after all of this time, it's not like she's tried to get in touch.

 

there seems to be lots of girls interested in me at the moment, but I've never wanted anything that's handed to me on a plate, i like to work for things.

 

i feel like if i could ever get back in touch with my first love and smooth things out at least, it would be a great weight off of my shoulders, i'd feel a lot better every single day.

 

i'm serious, love shack helps me so much. it's so good to get this stuff out.

[Stefanie]

Gosh, if only my ex had the same thoughts for me.

 

If I ever felt like a relationship was worth saving or seeing through, I'd go for it. I have vivid dreams too, hoping for my ex to rekindle his love for me but he's not being himself and I'm just trying leaving him alone right now.

 

In your situation, if you want to be cautious, you could bring her up in a conversation with a mutual friend and see how she's going. If the relationship was as good as you say, maybe the pain of the breakup has faded and she's open to the idea?

 

I hate the way dating has turned into some sort of game, where people need to use tactics and follow the trends that is usually used to score a date or trick the ex into coming back. Where did the honesty go? If someone means that much to you and you think this has great potential, I think you should go for it.