autumn2 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 So this semester, I met the most (cliché coming) beautiful girl I've ever seen, in my university class. I'm 19 and so is she. We seemed to get along quite well, I felt as though we just 'clicked'. We had a first date a Friday two weeks ago, and I think it went really well. (Called her up to organise it, paid for everything. Wanted to show her I was interested.) She said she really enjoyed it. Then on the following Monday night, a few hours after our class, I texted her and asked if she wanted to do something again sometime, she said 'Yes, why not....' providing it was after the 4th of June (as we both had assignments and other work to do until then). Anyway, I ended up texting her a few times, and we actually met at uni a few nights last week to study in the library, we did study, then also talked before we went home. One night last week, we went to a park in the city (this is probably at about 9pm, and sat and chatted and laughed for a few hours, I think now I probably should have gone for a kiss, or something, as there were a few 'moments' but I didn't. Argh.) Anyway, at the end of each night I walked her to her bus stop. Our conversations haven't really escalated to anything serious, but we did have a lot of light texting with each other last week. I gave her a few funny compliments via text implying that she was pretty. When we're together I've given a few compliments (although I've been trying not to overdo it). Anyway last Friday, we had to hand in an assignment that morning, so I asked if we could do it at the same time. She said yes. We dropped it off and then five minutes later just as we were leaving (she was off to see her friends), I surprised her with a nice flower. She gave me a hug and texted me to say that it made her day. SO. I texted her on Friday night asking how her day went with her friends and she said she was still out with them (10:30pm), eventually I said goodnight as it was getting quite late. She jokingly texted to me that her friends said 'goodnight' to me too, though I have not met them. Anyway, on Saturday I did not receive any texts from her, so I texted her Saturday night basically saying goodnight. No reply to that text. I haven't sent her a text since and neither has she and it is now Monday (but we have no classes today). We have one last class together tomorrow night. - So I am thinking I will just wait until then to say hi etc.. I'm just finding it hard to concentrate, as I really like this girl, - I've never met anyone else like her. But I just don't know if she really does like me back. She is on my mind all the time, and we haven't even had a second date yet! Seeing tomorrow is the 4th of June, I though I'd ask her in that class if she wanted to do something together again for an official second date (although I'm not sure of what we'd do just yet). But I just don't know what to think. When we're together we seem to have a great time. CONFUSED.
BornToDie Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Normally, I don't tell a guy he "made my day" unless I was into him. Wouldn't want to give a guy friend the wrong idea, you know? On top of that, her friends saying "good night" to you kind of jumps out at me. How could her friends say good night to you unless she's told them about you, right? Brings back memories of me telling my best friend about a guy, and then later at the bar, after drinking, jokingly texting that my friends and I said good night. I think she does like you as more than a friend, but don't remain in the friendly limbo, which leads to getting friend zoned. She may be confused about how you feel. Ask her out on a date, and make a move while you can. Good luck 1
Ami1uwant Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 ask her out.... there is a window of opportunity to do it.....which is now. 1
happykat Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I think it'd be ok to text something like- Hey what's up? are you ok? From what you wrote I def don't think you have been friend zoned.. But it is weird that she didn't reply to your text.. I'd text one more time.
targaryen Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Don't text her, give her time to miss you. Next time you're alone together, as she's talking, start looking at her lips and eyes (alternating) and moving closer. She should realise you're not listening anymore and ask you "what's up" or some variation. That's when you say 'I'm sorry but I have to do something" and just kiss her.* Don't make it last more than a few seconds. Then just pull back and say "what were you saying?" or "ok, you can continue". If she responded positively to the kiss she is guaranteed to blush and smile...she might actually continue the story but now you have the power to kiss her again in a few minutes times and this time you can make it last longer. Yes, it's risky, and she either will respond positively or not. In any case, you've got nothing to lose - you're not getting her at this point, all you're doing is wondering if she likes you. *PS: Don't take half an hour to get to this point, your moving in slowly it will creep her out otherwise. Source: it works, it is known Tell me how it goes
Author autumn2 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Don't text her, give her time to miss you. Next time you're alone together, as she's talking, start looking at her lips and eyes (alternating) and moving closer. She should realise you're not listening anymore and ask you "what's up" or some variation. That's when you say 'I'm sorry but I have to do something" and just kiss her.* Don't make it last more than a few seconds. Then just pull back and say "what were you saying?" or "ok, you can continue". If she responded positively to the kiss she is guaranteed to blush and smile...she might actually continue the story but now you have the power to kiss her again in a few minutes times and this time you can make it last longer. Yes, it's risky, and she either will respond positively or not. In any case, you've got nothing to lose - you're not getting her at this point, all you're doing is wondering if she likes you. *PS: Don't take half an hour to get to this point, your moving in slowly it will creep her out otherwise. Source: it works, it is known Tell me how it goes I'll be honest, I just imagined that whole scenario in my head and loved it. Hopefully it goes that well in reality! Man this is frustrating, another sleepless night it would seem. . Ah well, thanks though for all of your replies, will post back any updates!
targaryen Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Hey...just reread what I wrote earlier and I'd like to highlight the most important point of all: mindset If you're going to go ahead with this do NOT do it in the mindset of a guy who gives flowers. Instead, you're a guy who takes what he wants, and you want her at that moment. Don't be too rough but don't be too romantic either (you sound like me, falling fast for That Girl, and forgetting others, and I've had to learn this the hard way at 19 - I'm 24 now). Just enjoy it Good luck!
Author autumn2 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Hey...just reread what I wrote earlier and I'd like to highlight the most important point of all: mindset If you're going to go ahead with this do NOT do it in the mindset of a guy who gives flowers. Instead, you're a guy who takes what he wants, and you want her at that moment. Don't be too rough but don't be too romantic either (you sound like me, falling fast for That Girl, and forgetting others, and I've had to learn this the hard way at 19 - I'm 24 now). Just enjoy it Good luck! I hear you, thanks again for that. Well there's only a few minutes until our 6pm class. Here's to an optimistic evening!
starrynightz45 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Let me tell you this. If she wasn't into you, she wouldn't answer any texts after the first date probably. She wouldn't agree to go hand in the papers together. And she ABSOLUTELY would not tell you that you made her day with the flower. That's code for "OMG I am so into you too! And you just gave me a flower! AGHHHHHH!!!! But I'm trying to remain calm." Trust me. Maybe, just maybe when you didn't go for that kiss, she got a little confused...maybe a little upset. It's possible, even if not very likely. It's tough, but you have to be the man. You have to make the first move, don't expect her to do it. Ask her out when you see her in class!
Author autumn2 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Wowowow. So Here's what happened. Class at 6-8pm. After 8 she mentioned as we were leavin the building that she wanted to have some dinner. Anyway, long story short, we did lots of walking, a few moments alone together in some places but didn't make any moves. Until we finally went to the city park at about 10pm, we sat on the park bench. Which was wet, she put her jacket down underneath her, one thing lead to another and she asked if I wanted to sit on her jacket too. So I thought, ok, that's good. Anyway, after a bit of delay and small talk, I kissed her on the cheek. Then I said this line to get her to look this way then we kissed on the lips, a number of times. Told her how beautiful was and that I liked her, she then said how she liked me too. Then we left soon after. Thanks for the advice folks, really did give me a confidence boost that I needed. (Sorry if there are mistakes, I'm writing this on my phone.
Author autumn2 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 Let me tell you this. If she wasn't into you, she wouldn't answer any texts after the first date probably. She wouldn't agree to go hand in the papers together. And she ABSOLUTELY would not tell you that you made her day with the flower. That's code for "OMG I am so into you too! And you just gave me a flower! AGHHHHHH!!!! But I'm trying to remain calm." Trust me. Maybe, just maybe when you didn't go for that kiss, she got a little confused...maybe a little upset. It's possible, even if not very likely. It's tough, but you have to be the man. You have to make the first move, don't expect her to do it. Ask her out when you see her in class! I really liked your post here! As I think you were right! Just clarifying, when you said 'ask her out', do you mean ask if she wants to be my girlfriend? I haven't really done this before you see, but I had imagined that that comes in time, after a few more dates? Or is that not necessarily the case?
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