FebruaryAmor Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Hi everyone this is my first post Back story to my relationship. I have been dating this guy (im 24 hes 25) for about a year off an on. I broke it off with him last year for 3 months NC (no cell no text cold turkey) but he texted me months after and we started dating like nothing happened. Things were good at first, but we just started arguing over dumb stupid stuff. I will admit, i have trust issues and clingy tendencies so I've calm down for the past few days and only he has been initiating contact with me. On friday may 31, we had THE big argument. He told me he has been stressed lately, so i met him at his place and he pretty much said. I will paraphrase , i am not happy. you make me feel like my head is going to explode. you dont appreciate me. you always want me to be miserable when youre miserable. you are better than this. i care about you but i can't prove to you anymore that i love you. ive done everything. hes never spoken like this before and it really hit home. I shed a few tears and he didnt even look at me, he kept watching a movie on netflix.. as if i wasn't even there. So I was like ok i gotta go, i made plans with my girls for the evening. As i was leaving he grabs me from behind and starts hugging me. Then we have sex in the hallway. Im like wtf r u doing? And hes like hush. So i've been giving him space i havent seen him since friday night but ive been doing my own thing. He still texts me but I keep the convo short. He called me today and asked me out on a date for tonight but i said i was busy. Then he said "can we go tomorrow night?" I was like idk maybe ill let you know. are we still together? reason i ask is because on friday when i asked he said "idk maybe" but now hes contacting me and trying to take me out on dates? should I just go full NC?
CorridorE Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 "idk maybe" probably means no. You've got to just tell him you need to know what is going on between you two and get a straight answer. But don't keep pushing away his date proposals, because right now you're sending unclear signals to him about whether you want to be with him as well. 1
Author FebruaryAmor Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 so it's been about 4 nights since we haven't sleep in the same bed, and 2 days since i havent physically seen him, but he still initiates contact every. its minimal. i feel like its "breadcrumbs..?" i said maybe to the date because I am confused as to what we are. He says i make him feel like his head is going to explode then he asks me out on a date 2 days later..? Very mixed signals. I do very well with NC if i completely BLOCK him from contacting me. I mean blocking all outlets including cell phone and e-mail. I'm going to wait until this weekend to see if we meet physically. If we don't ill assume we aren't together and just move on. it hurts like hell.. whenever I get a text from someone, I hope I see his number..even tho I have nothing to say. I just like the feeling of butterflies in my stomach when he texts me.
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