Danny30 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Hello everyone. I began dating my current girlfriend in sophomore year of college. We even successfully dated while she studied abroad in a far off foreign country. Upon returning she dumped me like a hot potato for her ex-boyfriend, whom she was enamored with. Not sure why since the guy treated her poorly and was quite the *******. So fast forward half a year, in Junior year of spring semester we began to talk again out of the blue, and well we dated again. And now this time we have been going out for well over a year, out of college now, and well all seems well. However, one day recently, while she is on vacation she told me to check something on her facebook, so I did. Well in doing so I saw an open chat, where she had messaged another one of her ex's who she says they are just friends now, and the last time they dated was a two years ago. Well in her message was just "Miss you" and that kind of angered and annoyed me. She never see's my opinion on ex's so no matter what I say or how I say things, I will always be in the wrong. So my question is, what should I do? And how should I go about doing so? Thanks!
shexy Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Sounds to me like she's really still hung up on her ex, and probably always will be. If it were me, I'd break up with her - I really don't like being the 2nd choice.
othersideofthepillow Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Was there anything else that was in the message string or just "Miss you"? Is your GF the kind of girl that will say that in passing to her friends (guy/girl) as just a word to say? It could just be that she misses being able to conversate with him and nothing more. Some people can genuinely be friendly with there ex's (after enough time apart - so 2 years is enough to just be friends now) so it could just be a friendly "miss you". With her track record of dumping you though, you need to be extremely careful. Tell her that you saw it when she asked you to go on her fb and that it upset you and that it made you uncomfortable. Don't accuse her of anything just be open and honest.
Author Danny30 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Well the message before was an answer to go out on the weekend with a group of friends from school, but since she is away with her other friend she was unable to go. So she had thanked him and then did an "I miss you!" Now this second message was one in which she initiated the contact and the message was just "Miss you" so I'm not quite sure what to make of that.
othersideofthepillow Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 You need to talk to her about it. If she says it's just friendly, voice your opinion that it does upset you and that you wouldn't want her to not be able to trust you or think of you missing your ex's and than leave it at that. Your dating this woman so you should be able to trust what she's telling you. If you don't trust what she's telling you than you should stop dating her - right now. 2
Keke1 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 You need to talk to her about it. If she says it's just friendly, voice your opinion that it does upset you and that you wouldn't want her to not be able to trust you or think of you missing your ex's and than leave it at that. Your dating this woman so you should be able to trust what she's telling you. If you don't trust what she's telling you than you should stop dating her - right now. This last paragraph will be the absolute best thing you'll read about your relationship
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