John_Smith057721 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Roughly two weeks ago a girl i didn't know but who knew me from high school liked old pictures of me through Facebook. It sparked my attention and I started to chat with her. From the start the chemistry between us was the best I've experienced. Three days in a row we chatted till the early hours of the morning then I asked her out. The first date was amazing. We both talked a lot about ourselves and it was fun no doubt a about it we also kissed a couple of long passionate kisses by the beach. The second date was also great fun although not as fiery as the first one. we talked a lot (mainly she) and kissed a bit... the point is nothing awkward ever happened to any of us. Plus both the dates ended with nice kisses so no awkwardness there. After the second date i tried to find a day we both could meet but i didn't succeed. Then one of my shows (i'm a musician) finished earlier then I've expected and i remembered she told me she planed on going to a certain party (where the hosts were a couple of my high school friends) I decided to surprise her in the party. she was dancing when i arrived and when she saw me she only smiled. I tried to approach her a couple of time but i saw from her body language that sh doesn't want to talk. The day after I've sent her a message asking her if we can meet next week. she answered not at all and when i asked her when she can she answered that its a rough period for her (she's graduating high school and its the SAT's month) and she cannot meet. I can't help but thinking that since the second date she decided she wasn't going to meet me anymore (hence my failure at scheduling with her). What i can't seem to understand is why she changed her mind after two great dates? I really like this girl and i thought she liked me, is it possible i could change her mind again in the future? (after all the tests)
Jon Tenzo Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Assuming the girl is 18 which would help in court of law I think you should give it a break. Unfortunately younger girls play a lot of games (which is why I was always dating older even in High School) so you are going to have to play the game too if you want really her. This means not feeding into her BS. If she is really interested she will pursue you if stop pursuing her. If not, it means she is screwing around. Depends how you want to spend your free time but I highly suggest moving on. Appear in areas where she frequents with a female relative or friend. Believe me she will come over and give you some attention. This is how females at that age work. I highly suggest you search YouTube for "Tariq Nasheed". If you are into younger women you will definitely need to check into his lectures. For me they saved me a lot of time, money and BS even when dealing with women my own age or older. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I can't help but thinking that since the second date she decided she wasn't going to meet me anymore (hence my failure at scheduling with her). That is correct. When someone doesn't want to date you, you will encounter more hurdles than the Great Wall of China. It will be one excuse or obstacle after another. Learn to walk away when the other person loses interest. What i can't seem to understand is why she changed her mind after two great dates? That's the point of dating. She didn't promise to marry you. She didn't sign a contract guaranteeing that she would go on X number of dates with you. She simply said yes to a date. Having gone on two dates, she has learned enough to know she doesn't want a third with you. It happens. It will happen to you again. You will feel the same way about a date in the future. This happens whether you are 18 or 40. We don't click with everyone. You thought the dates were great. She might differ in perspective. Who knows? Either way, she made it crystal clear she's not interested in dating you again. I really like this girl and i thought she liked me, is it possible i could change her mind again in the future? (after all the tests) Unlikely! But you are young and will probably ignore advice to stop trying. While counterproductive, futilely expending energy and time on this may prove a useful learning experience for you.
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