BLS Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I recently started talking to this girl from my college. She's very shy and we were introduced by a mutual friend whom we went to lunch with. Since the introduction (about 3 weeks ago) I've instigated small talk with her which were always short lived conversations. While at home about 1.5weeks ago I messaged her over facebook chat. We had a short, funny conversation and I then had to leave. About 3 days later I messaged her again. I teased her a bit about something and she didn't seem to understand what I meant by what I said. I gave her my number, said I had to go and to text me if she wanted a better explanation. She said she doesn't have text messaging (only iMessage and actually invited me to continue the conversation via that method, however I don't have an iPhone so that wouldn't work so the only way I can communicate is over Facebook chat). I politely left the conversation. I figured at this point I've put in enough effort, so I ceased instigating conversations in person or online. 4 days later she started a brief chat in person and, a day after that, messaged me online just to talk. In the online chat we talked about dancing. I said nobody had ever taught me how to dance and she said that "I could be that person:)". I took this as a pretty good sign. The whole talk went on for about 1.5hrs before I ended it as I had to go (i've ended all our online discussions thus far). So now that i've gotten mixed signals (remember, she's VERY shy) I'm not sure where to proceed. How long should I wait before messaging her online again? I'm not sure what to do. P.S., please excuse the childishness of facebook chatting, it's the only method I've got lol
MrRightNow Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 The situation is looking good for you, bro. Ask her out next time you talk to her. It would be much better if you can do it in person somehow.
Author BLS Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 I should be getting a car in about a month and I didn't want to ask her on a date until I have that. Any alternative options?
othersideofthepillow Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 You need to keep her thinking of you (not creepy status) so keep the conversations brief, funny and interesting! Not everyday, prolly every other day or so. Also, make some funny jokes about being the only one to initiate contact so she can hopefully pick up on the sign that you would like her to contact you too. You said you don't wanna ask her out till you have a car so your really really limited in what you can do man.
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