paigej91 Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) I met a guy (26 years old) out of the clear blue and clicked amazingly with him. When we met, we ended up talking to each other for 2.5 hours and easily could have kept going, but felt it was probably weird to keep talking since we had stuff to do that day so we parted ways. A month went by with no contact and I kept thinking about this random interaction I had with him. Sure enough, he asked me on a date about a month later. From then, we went on a date once a week for 1.5-2 months. We didn't have sex, but we got physical. We're still texting each other and talking about what's going on in our lives, but I'm concerned that we haven't seen each other in a month. Both of us are busy, but it doesn't seem excusable. Three out of four weekends wouldn't have worked because one of us was busy/out of town, but this weekend would have worked and he didn't initiate anything at a specific time (nor did he initiate anything Monday-Thursday this month). We almost met up this last Friday spontaneously, but we were both out drinking with our separate friend groups so it didn't work out. He expressed disappointment about this, so I think he misses me or at least wants to see me again. And earlier in the week he said it's been too long since we've seen each other. We both seem to really like each other, yet for some reason it's not moving towards something more serious. Am I in the friend zone now since he has been talking to me, but not being as initiative about dates as before? Or is he going to bounce back and start taking things more seriously? I can't tell if he's genuinely busy/still likes me, or if he purposely distanced himself for one reason or another (because he just wants to be friends, because he needed to think about things, etc.) Edited June 2, 2013 by paigej91 Link to post Share on other sites
Author paigej91 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 If a man wants to see you bad enough, he'll make the effort to do so. This guy talks like he wants to get together, but talk is cheap. I think he's just saying it to placate you - or he'd be DOING it. Not talking about it. He's not motivated. That's what I'm assuming, I just wanted to see if anyone else thought something else may be going on. When I showed my (brutally honest) friend some of our texts, he said he sounds like he genuinely likes me and is truly just busy lately (and that I was over-thinking things). Any guys (especially ages 22-28) have input? Link to post Share on other sites
Author paigej91 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Share Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) Also: earlier this week I invited him to hang out (it sounded like a friends thing), and he that "that would make my day". (maybe it's just me being biased, but that doesn't sound like a phrase even a user/player would say) However, later that day he texted me and said he was going to have to work late that night so he probably wouldn't be able to make it (he has a job with a bad work/life balance). He texted me at 10 when he got out so it unfortunately didn't work. I definitely don't plan on initiating anything again until he makes a concrete effort to DO something. Edited June 5, 2013 by paigej91 Link to post Share on other sites
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