Girlfriend broke up w me via text

[thinking_guy]

My now ex girlfriend Of 5 Years broke up w me 3 days ago over a text. She wanted to be single to hang out w her friends to go out clubbing. Which I let her go I never stopped her from going. She also told me to not talk to her family. She took away my second mom and I loved her and I can't say bye to her. Everything I did it was annoying to Her. For the past month she didn't want to hang out with me because she said she was busy and too stressed to hang out w me because she's about to graduate from college but when her friend's wanted to go clubbing she went out w them I told her I thought you were stressed out she replied I need a social life as well.

 

I always wanted to hang out w her because she never wanted to. The only time she wanted me to go over her house is to help her w her math hw so I did after we finished she goes to sleep and tells me to leave. I got so upset w her because it felt she was pushing me away she stop showing that She loves me and I showed her I love her and she thinks I'm clingy but how could I be clingy I was showing that I love her and it felt like I was showing love to a wall. I wanted to talk to her about our problems and she never communicated w me. On our 5 year anniversary we didn't do anything special she told me not to get her anything and don't take her nowhere because we where short on cash because it all went to my car accident 3 weeks ago.

 

When I saw her that day she was frustrated because she got a refurbished phone and everytime I talked she got annoyed. So we go eat at a wing place after that we went to her house to put a stereo in her brother's car w finished and she asked me to leave and I told her how about our anniversary sex she replied not today. I got mad because we we didn't have sex for about a month and I thought that at least we going to have it today. So I went home she texted me what's wrong I told her how I was feeling and about sex she got mad and said you know what your stressing me out and right now everthing is to much and I don't want to have sex.

 

I told her how about once a week she got more mad and said sorry I can't I'm not satisfying you maybe you need to find another girl that can. The next day we apologized and we took a break a week later I asked her to talk to me because this fight is stupid she said no and told me I'm sorry I just want to be single right now I want to be w my friend's and no I'm not with someone. Please leave me alone and my family. I told her saying in person she replied sorry I can't just leave me alone I love you but right now I need time for myself.

 

That broke my heart because she threw away 5 years so easy and now she deleted me as a friend on Facebook deleted all our photos and she's happy because her friends post photos of her in instagram. When I did all that it hurt so much I couldn't do it but I did. Now she doesn't want to see me or talk to me. We where going to a concert on Thursday we all of our friends I'm not sure if should go all my guy friends are going and all her girlfriends are going.. one last thing her graduation is on Friday should I attend?

 

I thought I shouldn't go just buy her flowers and a card saying congratulations my friend I'm so proud of you. Love your friend and leave it at her door step when she's gone to the graduation

 

 

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[CelticGibson]

Dumped by text after 5 years? What a nasty piece of work she is. Unfortunately when people have life changes like her ending college and entering a new phase, this usually means out with the old, in with the new. You were part of the college thing and now it's done.

 

If I were you I would stop all contact and just let her be. The truth is, there is nothing you can do or say that's going to improve your situation with her. You just have to walk away and start healing. Sorry you were treated this way. It's cold and hurtful but at least you know for sure now. Best of luck.

[thinking_guy]

Dumped by text after 5 years? What a nasty piece of work she is. Unfortunately when people have life changes like her ending college and entering a new phase, this usually means out with the old, in with the new. You were part of the college thing and now it's done.

 

If I were you I would stop all contact and just let her be. The truth is, there is nothing you can do or say that's going to improve your situation with her. You just have to walk away and start healing. Sorry you were treated this way. It's cold and hurtful but at least you know for sure now. Best of luck.

 

I know I asked her to say it in person but she didn't want to I was at work when she did it I broke down and left. We started dating in high school she was the nices girl I ever met she was till she turned 21 she wanted to go clubbing more and she loved that life style at first she invited me to go and I told her that's not my lifestyle but you can go no I feel like and idiot I should of started Going out w her. She also started talking to other guys and dancing w one of them no grinding that I know of my friend saw her. She was a church girl I don't think she will sleep w another guy because she thinks its wrong when we had sex because she come from a strict family about sex before marriage but you never know maybe she does I'm was her first.