Can i get her back??

[AndrewTank]

Hi all, ok here it is im 23 and she's 22 we've been together for 3 years. She has bipolar and we had little fights alot during the realationship but nothing major. We lived in Vegas for about 8 months and i didn't have a job most of the time there and she basically supported me. She ended up getting pregnant by me and my family really was angry and didn't think we could handle a kid. So this got my girlfriend really upset and hurt her alot that my family wasn't supportive and they even sent my grandma to vegas to try to talk her into getting an abortion. It was a very stressful time and then she ended up having a miscarriage. We just ended up thinking it was just not the right time and moved on..

 

Then a couple months later my dad invites us both to go on a vacation with my whole family to ocean city md, my brother who lived with us in vegas drove us all the way to the beach instead of taking a plane because he was gonna stay in PA (where my family lives and where we all lived until we moved to vegas) for about a month. So i was struggling with money and didnt have a job in vegas so ended up staying with my brother in PA until he drove back and also my grandma said i needed my wisdom teeth out so talked me into staying (i ended up never getting them out), but my girlfriend had a job in vegas so she ended up flying back to vegas after going to the beach with my family so we were apart for about a month.

 

So this is where it gets bad for me and my girlfriend im living in PA and she's in vegas. I have 2 brothers my other brother is living in vegas in the house my girlfriend is and he was yelling at her about cleaning up the cat box and worthless stuff and telling her he's gonna kick her out because she refused. I tried calling my him to talk him out of it but he wouldn't stop. He started to throw her stuff out and blow her phone up with horrible texts and wrote an eviction notice for her on a little piece of paper, but she called the cops and the cop was on her side and said you can't throw someone out with a fake eviction note and she showed him the harassment texts and the cop asked her if she wanted them to take him to jail, she said no thats not what i want. My brother texts me and says she's having guys over and she's sleeping with other guys now that i'm not there and i believed him and it got me upset. So out of anger and jealousy and i go online and talk to a couple girls inappropriately. It was stupid and i was just lonely and just wasn't thinking, i regretted it later. I should of just talked to her but she was dealing with alot and she has bipolar so i thought she might explode with everything going on. She ended up moving out and moving in with her friend until she can save up money for a plane ticket. I was also broke but about a week later i bought her a plane ticket to come back to PA. I also found a cheap apartment for just the 2 of us, so that was our plan stay in PA and don't have roommates and find new jobs close to us.

 

So we made it through all that drama and now were back in PA living in an apartment we both found new jobs she went through a couple but found one she likes now and we were doing really good. I end up seeing her messaging these guys on facebook and it made me jealous so one day when she was at work i ended up messaging these girls on a website and told this one girl i thought she was cute or something just because i was jealous she was talking to guys online and wasn't knowing what she was saying to them and i had bad thoughts in my head i know what i was doing was wrong but did it anyway, and she came home and saw it on my phone (i forgot to cancel out of it) and she was crushed and broken and i could see it in her eyes.. it was really sad and hurt me too.

 

So she won't forgive me now i never did anything or even seen any of the girls i was talking to but she just looks at me differently i tell her i was jealous cuz she was talking to guys and it made me upset, but she said they were just friends and would never do that to me and you should of just came and talked to me. I wish i could go back in time and not do what i did but i cant. I love this girl alot she means the world to me and don't wanna lose her but she broke up with me and i just want a second chance with her! We still live together but she goes out alot with her friends sometimes dosen't come home and fights with me every time i try to talk to her. She keeps saying she can't wait to move out, or she wants me to move out cuz i have a car and she don't and she lives close to work. Im heart broken and just want her to forgive me and take me back because we were so good together before this, and we made it through alot it just sucks that we'd break up over something dumb i did. Anything i can do to get her back??

 

Thanks for anyone that replies

[Deerhunter]

Bipolar huh? Is she on meds? Is she trying to get help? It can take years to find the right balance. If she is not, it will only get worse. Run! Visit a bipolar forum. They will tell you the same thing.