CorridorE Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 So I went on a date last night... first one post BU. And it was kind of awful... Not for him, I don't think. Just for me. It seemed like he had a really good time with me and was smiling and laughing a lot, and he kissed me at the end of the night. But I wasn't feeling it at all... I don't want there to be a second date. I didn't feel a connection and thought it was a bit awkward. I don't know. Maybe I'm not ready to date yet. But I know no one can determine when I'll be ready except me. I actually realized recently that my own timeline of the BU has been a bit askew'd. We were on shakey grounds for about a month before the breakup, but it didn't actually end until a few days after Valentine's Day... so like 3 1/2 months. And this whole time I though I was on/going on 5. (Counting Feburary at "1 month" and June as "1" without really thinking) It certainly feels like a lot longer... But as it turns out, for not even 4 months post BU I think I'm doing all right. At least I got up the courage to try going out on a date... it just didn't feel right yet.
Giha Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 You can't force it. If you are not ready yet, then it's ok...it takes time. Finding someone who feels right can also be tricky, and you'll know when you are ready. But I'm glad to hear you are trying. I think it's a major step forwards. Good for you
McGriff Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 My BU was around the same time and I've been on a few dates since with your same results. Really nice people, but absolutely zero connection on my part. I know I'm definitely not ready, but I feel like I still have to get out there and try. Sitting at home definitely doesn't work for me.
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