totallylost5040 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) Hi there, this is my first post. Long story short, (sort of), my friend (little less than a year) and I decided to date after a trip together (apparently we've had an attraction for each other for a while and it just sparked while we were alone). We decided to try this out and date after she got back, she left for 12 days, then came back and we hung out a lot (probably a mistake). We got too comfortable with one another and decided we were still exclusively dating. fast forward 3 weeks, she tells me she's still figuring things out then she leaves for another 2.5 weeks for work and I get dumped when she gets back (damn thinking) in that time I had gotten her a bday present and planned out this romantic weekend for her bday to show that we can be romantic with one another instead of friendly. So basically this relationship was about 3 months but to me, i thought it was ok. But apparently for her the chemistry disappeared, i think that's because of the constant time we spent together just doing nothing, we missed the romantic part, because of the unique situation. We had planned on doing so many things together, it just seemed too good to be true at sometimes. I got really complacent and that's where I think we messed up and we didn't communicate that to one another, just rode it out. I did see if she wanted to try again, instead of being just friends, she said she didn't know and wasn't sure, then 5 days later makes out with someone in front of me (these memories are truly painful) I leave for L.A. and she calls to apologize, I told her it was disrespectful, hurtful, painful, felt betrayed and that I was disappointed in her. I was initially pissed, but now that I'm going through NC. It's HARD NOT to think about the past and how great we could have been together. She texted me the other day and was seeing if I was feeling ok, I know she's looking at my facebook account and asking some of our mutual friends if I'm ok. I want to move on and forget this relationship, so that I can build a new one. Whether it be friends with her, or rekindling that spark with them or finding someone new. We had such fun and AMAZING times together, its hard to let go. I've been keeping myself super busy, but the thoughts come creeping in when I'm asleep or I'm alone. There's a part of me that WOULD want to date her again because it just seems that we were "unfinished" and that she really didn't seem to communicate well or give any effort. (which is something I hated) I know that in order to "get an ex back" or "move on" or "let go", you gotta work on yourself and that's what I've been doing, I got a promotion, i've been working my ass off, im doing volunteering now. Ultimately she and I said we'd be friends but I feel like I would want to try again so I wouldn't have any regrets about the situation. To me it felt like she was just scared to be hurt, and usually I am too, but I opened up my heart and got burned for it, bad. lol. It's so hard NOT to contact her, but I know everytime I do or think about it, it'll just push her away even more and give her the advantage in this situation. So I've stopped talking to her and our mutual friends (her friends first). Until I have some more time to think. Any suggestions? or thoughts? Edited June 2, 2013 by totallylost5040
Author totallylost5040 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 bumping this if anyone is out there
Author totallylost5040 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I agree metal_chick, that's what I've been trying to do, once she sees that I'm living my OWN life and doing my OWN thing, it might spark a bit more interest. Broken things can always be repaired unless abuse is involved yah?
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