Littlebirdy Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Hey So I posted a thread in Cheating, Flirting, Jealousy board already about what I was going through. It's been 5 days of no contact, well kind of. I did text him the day after breaking up calling him a lying cheating b**** after reading over the messages he and his "lover" exchanged. It made me really mad all over again, but I actually think it made him realize I'm seriously angry and NOT to contact me. He only replied to my text calling me crazy and nothing from either of us since. I'm scared he's just holding off on talking right now instead of trying to get over me. That's what he does. After a fight he will leave as normal, wait a day or two depending on how mad I am, then walk back into my house uninvited and console me then persuade me back in person. Since I never curse, like ever, he knows I'm really mad and so he's giving me a few extra days to calm down. I'm still very mad but starting to miss the intimacy. I don't miss HIM, I just miss the closeness or whatever. I'm scared I might not be able to resist him if he comes over. Over text yea, but in person? Eventually we will have to talk. We have a baby on the way together (I know it's bad, but this is about me breaking up with him), so the NC rule doesn't really count for us. Texting or phone calls are fine with me, but seeing him in person is what does me in everytime. So what do I do if he comes over? He doesn't knock or anything, just walks in and comes straight to my room.
emmalynro Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 "But this is about me breaking up with him" I looked at your other thread. You're 20, you're four months pregnant with a child you admit you don't want, from an alcoholic father who cheats on you. I have so many questions to ask---why are you pregnant if you don't want a child? Why did you decide to be pregnant in the first place? Why did you decide to have a child with someone you clearly don't love (you yourself say "I don't miss him, just the intimacy)?---but none of that matters right now. You have a HUMAN LIFE inside of you and that needs to come first. But fine, let's talk about this guy for a minute. Why do you want anything to do with him? Tell him to GTFO, move home with your parents, or couch surf with friends until you can move out. You're clearly smart enough to know that this relationship is bad for you, so don't settle. Get out. Someday you'll find a man who treats you well and who won't put you through this bull, but until then, it's OK to be single. Your dignity is more important than any short-term intimacy with a jerk. Back to the real issue. The fact that you are treating your pregnancy as an afterthought to a breakup suggests you are absolutely not ready to raise a child. Please look up adoption policies in your state, and in the meantime, please try putting this child first for a change. Your well-being during the next five months is essential to the health of your future child.
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