ippn1 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 clifs: - girl (22) was very attracted to me, chasing me... - we started dating (1 month), everything super, she was very into me - got premenstrual (depressed), i figured out she was not over her ex of 3 years - saw her ex at a party soon after that (she texted him next day...) - told my she didnt fall in love with me and is not over her ex and cant be my GF - went NC The problem is Im stuck at home because I had surgery (foot) and cant do much but think about it. Im still not over it completely. Every time it gets better something happens: I saw her or she somehow contact me. 2 weeks after we broke up she contacted me because i have some common stuff with her father (small town, I know him from before) and he called me he will bring me something, but then she texted me that she will (she didnt because it turned out that 'this thing' was not finished)... Then 1 month after we broke up i went to a party she knew I was attending so she came with her friend (my friends girlfriend) and they hung out in our circle whole party. We said just 'hi' to each other (her drunk friend constantly telling me to go talk to her, I didnt).Then next day after that party she texted me - she wished me good luck and stuff like that because she knew im going to have a surgery next week... I dont know why she does that. Its like remembering me all the time. I was thinking to block her contacts but that would be strange since there were nothing ugly between us. So is that her just being friendly or she still think about me (wants to have me for 2nd choice)? Now its been 14 days NC again...
CelticGibson Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 She told you she's not over her ex. This is a big red flag that should not be ignored. When they harbour feelings (Both love OR hate) for an ex, they are STILL emotionally involved whether you like it or not. This means that you were a temporary distraction so she could park her hurt and have some fun. The speed in which things progressed is a classic example of this. She wanted to rush into something new to avoid dealing with her last break up. It happens a lot. It's called a REBOUND and I am afraid you are it. Accept it for what it is. “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ― Mark Twain
Author ippn1 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 It sucks, i feel used and mislead. She was talking about things we will do together in future so there was no doubt in my mind that anything can go so wrong so soon. Its a good thing we havent had sex...
CelticGibson Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 In the future, when you meet someone new, it's important to suss out how long she's single and how she feels about her last relationship. If they go on about it with any emotion other than looking at it with fond memories, then that should be a warning. Chalk this up to lessons learned and hopefully you have learned from this experience....
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