Re bound

[matt29]

Hi Everyone,

 

So it's been 8 weeks since my fiancée left me and our 7 year relationship. In all honest the relationship ended about 4 weeks before she actually gained up the courage to tell me. In that 4 weeks we were sleeping in separate beds and she was not affectionate at all, couldn't talk to her, she didn't want to spend time together etc etc then left without giving me a reason. Anyway I've been hanging out with this other girl.. We spent a whole night together and have been texting most days. We've also caught up for two dinner dates. I don't know what to think.. I feel as though I really like her!!! I'm trying to figure out if I actually have feelings for her, or if its just because She's giving me attention which I wasn't getting from my ex? This girl asked me what happened with my old relationship and I told her. She still seems interested in me.. I just fell as though its wrong! How can I start seeing someone since my 7 year relationship only ended 8 weeks ago!? I don't think I'd get into an actual relationship with this new girl, I'd love to keep seeing her and spending time together but where would that lead? I don't want to lead this girl on but I actually feel as though there could be a connection with us.. Am I not thinking straight due to my heartbreak? I still love my ex.. But I know I can't wait around for her..

Anyone been in a similar situation?

[Helsinkisyndrome]

Most likely, yes this is a rebound. You just got out of a 7 year relationship, you can't just wake up and fall in love when you're still processing what went wrong in your last relationship. You like the attention and companionship that this fling provides you at the moment. It distracts you a little from the break with your fiancee.

 

My advice, let this girl know you're not looking for anything serious, if she wants to hang around and hook up..then hey you can't feel bad. But in the mean time, process what went wrong with your ex and get yourself to the point where you are ready to be with someone again. Don't hop into something right now because someone is showing you attention.