Women and Mood swings.

[L1ght]

It's starting to dawn on me that one of the reasons I often end up fighting with my female partners in relationships is because I always end up feeling disrespected or that they aren't being sensitive enough to my feelings when they begin to be controlled by their mood swings. My logic is simple in a relationship.....be nice to me and I'll be nice to you etc....but if I feel the slightest bit of insensitivity/negativity coming towards me when I didn't deserve it I throw the negative energy back and it always causes problems between us. PMS in women is such a stupid thing that both male and females have to put up with but most the time it just seems like an excuse for a girl to get bitchy or cause unnecessary friction.

Edited June 2, 2013 by L1ght

[lost.girl]

It's starting to dawn on me that one of the reasons I often end up fighting with my female partners in relationships is because I always end up feeling disrespected or that they aren't being sensitive enough to my feelings when they begin to be controlled by their mood swings. My logic is simple in a relationship.....be nice to me and I'll be nice to you etc....but if I feel the slightest bit of insensitivity/negativity coming towards me when I didn't deserve it I throw the negative energy back and it always causes problems between us. PMS in women is such a stupid thing that both male and females have to put up with but most the times it just seems like an excuse for a girl to get bitchy.

 

Im going to take a WILD guess you are a single man lol As for PMS, yes it can be an emotional rollercoaster sometimes but you know what makes it worse? Being called bitchy.

 

Good luck mate! lol

[L1ght]

Im going to take a WILD guess you are a single man lol As for PMS, yes it can be an emotional rollercoaster sometimes but you know what makes it worse? Being called bitchy.

 

Good luck mate! lol

Yeah I'm single now but so what? you're trying to say that people who are not single are better human beings? Gimme a break....we all jump in and out of relationships until we decide to commit to someone and don't you worry I have a few options on the horizon thank you very much.

Anyway.....my point is I think women should learn to be more respectful towards their male partners when they do start being ruled by their emotional mood swings cos its actually a very annoying trait you just seem to expect us to put up with.

[lost.girl]

Yeah I'm single now but so what? you're trying to say that people who are not single are better human beings? Gimme a break....we all jump in and out of relationships until we decide to commit to someone and don't you worry I have a few options on the horizon thank you very much.

Anyway.....my point is I think women should learn to be more respectful towards their male partners when they do start being ruled by their emotional mood swings cos its actually a very annoying trait you just seem to expect us to put up with.

 

My assumption of you being single was simply due to your callous reaction to PMS. Im 99% sure you are a troll but on that 1% chance you are not I will tell you this....

 

Regarding the "emotions" women feel monthly it is a price to pay for sure. As a woman I do in fact feel unstable sometimes during it. Now having said that what is the pay off? We create life. Grow up and call your mom and thank her.

[metal_chick]

It's starting to dawn on me that one of the reasons I often end up fighting with my female partners in relationships is because I always end up feeling disrespected or that they aren't being sensitive enough to my feelings when they begin to be controlled by their mood swings. My logic is simple in a relationship.....be nice to me and I'll be nice to you etc....but if I feel the slightest bit of insensitivity/negativity coming towards me when I didn't deserve it I throw the negative energy back and it always causes problems between us. PMS in women is such a stupid thing that both male and females have to put up with but most the time it just seems like an excuse for a girl to get bitchy or cause unnecessary friction.

 

Perhaps your 'woman picker' is broken and you're picking the wrong girls?

[lost.girl]

Perhaps your 'woman picker' is broken and you're picking the wrong girls?

 

Woman picker is too small, giving him messed up directions haha

[metal_chick]

Woman picker is too small, giving him messed up directions haha

 

*smirk*

 

I like you. You seem like good people.

[skydiveaddict]

PMS in women is such a stupid thing that both male and females have to put up with but most the time it just seems like an excuse for a girl to get bitchy or cause unnecessary friction.

 

Exactly. Girls use that excuse all the time to justify horrible behavior. Never buy into it.

[L1ght]

lol and there's another annoying trait. You attack a guy and try to make him feel insecure or less of a man whenever he has a genuine issue he wants to discuss that may paint you in a not so flattering light. Enough already. I am happy with who I am and I know the qualities I bring to a relationship so quit attempting to belittle me and make me out to be unworthy of any woman on the planet. I do just fine thank you.

You did hit the nail on the head tho when you said "unstable"...yes that's an accurate description of the type of behaviour we have to deal with.

[L1ght]

Exactly. Girls use that excuse all the time to justify horrible behavior. Never buy into it.

I never do buy into it. The way I see it is that if I'm on the recieiving end of something I don't deserve then I take issue with it and call them out. I respect myself and theres no way in hell I'm gonna let any partner abuse the trust I give them.

[lost.girl]

lol and there's another annoying trait. You attack a guy and try to make him feel insecure or less of a man whenever he has a genuine issue he wants to discuss that may paint you in a not so flattering light. Enough already. I am happy with who I am and I know the qualities I bring to a relationship so quit attempting to belittle me and make me out to be unworthy of any woman on the planet. I do just fine thank you.

You did hit the nail on the head tho when you said "unstable"...yes that's an accurate description of the type of behaviour we have to deal with.

 

Whoa dude!! I never said such a thing to you! I was simply reacting to you claiming all woman are bitchy at that time of month and use it as an excuse. It's not an excuse actually. Sure it does make your emotions a tad more volatile but you adjust.

 

I would worry more about the type of woman you are keeping company with. Ive never blamed anything I did on PMS. Any woman worth her salt wouldn't do that because it is something you learn to adjust to.

 

Im sorry that you feel I was belittling you, but on the same breath what sort of reaction were you expecting with that post?

[metal_chick]

Let's clarify. When I said 'woman picker', I did not mean your genitalia. I meant that emotion in your brain that drives you to pick the women you are attracted to.

 

If other posters want to apply a second meaning to it, I will let them, and I will giggle at them if I find it funny.

 

Personally, I find it offensive that you and skydiveaddict are implying that this is a woman-wide trait. If you are dating a lot of women who are having mood swings, attacking you, and blaming PMS, that is inexcusable on the part of the women. Everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. After that, a serious look needs to be taken at the kind of women you are dating. Because at some point, the common denominator in all our crappy relationships, is ourselves.

[L1ght]

Let's clarify. When I said 'woman picker', I did not mean your genitalia. I meant that emotion in your brain that drives you to pick the women you are attracted to.

 

If other posters want to apply a second meaning to it, I will let them, and I will giggle at them if I find it funny.

 

Personally, I find it offensive that you and skydiveaddict are implying that this is a woman-wide trait. If you are dating a lot of women who are having mood swings, attacking you, and blaming PMS, that is inexcusable on the part of the women. Everyone should be treated with kindness and respect. After that, a serious look needs to be taken at the kind of women you are dating. Because at some point, the common denominator in all our crappy relationships, is ourselves.

You are assuming I have only ever had relationships with one type of women....lol maybe that would happen if I lived in a small village or something but NO. I will clarify for you that I have been with many different kinds of women and it all boils down to the same thing when it comes to emotional fragility. You're acting as if PMS isn't an issue when in fact it always is so when you say its not I think you are being very disingenuine. Stop dancing around the issue and admit its a major factor that always puts strain on a relationship. You all become very irritable and lose control of your emotional well being while lashing out at the people around you. I admit that some women do it to smaller or larger degree but the fact is that this issue is real.

[lost.girl]

You are assuming I have only ever had relationships with one type of women....lol maybe that would happen if I lived in a small village or something but NO. I will clarify for you that I have been with many different kinds of women and it all boils down to the same thing when it comes to emotional fragility. You're acting as if PMS isn't an issue when in fact it always is so when you say its not I think you are being very disingenuine. Stop dancing around the issue and admit its a major factor that always puts strain on a relationship. You all become very irritable and lose control of your emotional well being while lashing out at the people around you. I admit that some women do it to smaller or larger degree but the fact is that this issue is real.

 

I mean this with all due respect but if you were a woman.... Right now I would be asking if you had PMS. Seriously, you seem a bit unstable and angry right now.

[metal_chick]

You are assuming I have only ever had relationships with one type of women....lol maybe that would happen if I lived in a small village or something but NO. I will clarify for you that I have been with many different kinds of women and it all boils down to the same thing when it comes to emotional fragility. You're acting as if PMS isn't an issue when in fact it always is so when you say its not I think you are being very disingenuine. Stop dancing around the issue and admit its a major factor that always puts strain on a relationship. You all become very irritable and lose control of your emotional well being while lashing out at the people around you. I admit that some women do it to smaller or larger degree but the fact is that this issue is real.

 

I'm not dancing around it. None of my female friends take their PMS out on their partners, I've never done that, and I feel that you are... well, looking for a scapegoat when maybe you're not dating the right women.

[sb129]

Would you rather I was a b*tch all the time?

 

That can be arranged.

 

Why limit yourself to one week in four right girls?

[mtnbiker3000]

In all honesty, as a man, this stopped being an issue when I was in my early twenties... This seems like a very immature topic of convo... Just sayin'...

[BustedUpInside]

You are assuming I have only ever had relationships with one type of women....lol maybe that would happen if I lived in a small village or something but NO. I will clarify for you that I have been with many different kinds of women and it all boils down to the same thing when it comes to emotional fragility. You're acting as if PMS isn't an issue when in fact it always is so when you say its not I think you are being very disingenuine. Stop dancing around the issue and admit its a major factor that always puts strain on a relationship. You all become very irritable and lose control of your emotional well being while lashing out at the people around you. I admit that some women do it to smaller or larger degree but the fact is that this issue is real.

 

Give me a break! You are the one who sounds like you have unstable, wild, mood swings. You take things that other posters have written and assume they are some sort of personal insult.

 

Whether or not a women is suffering from PMS doesn't mean that you aren't acting like a jerk. You, yourself, said that you "throw negative energy back" if you infer any "insensitivity" or "negativity" towards you. Maybe next time you are lucky enough to be involved with a woman and she says or does something that can be interpreted in two different ways: negatively or neutrally; you could just assume that not everyone is out to hurt your feelings or that if she does say something critical it is not because of PMS, but rather an honest attempt to point out where you could use some improvement.

 

Most women I know are not interested in acting horribly and then blaming it on PMS. I think it is pretty immature to assume that adults would do this. I think you are the one who is using PMS as an excuse for any time a woman has a complaint that you don't want to hear.

[metal_chick]

BustedUp, you're on fire today. I might retire at this rate!

[metal_chick]

In all honesty, as a man, this stopped being an issue when I was in my early twenties... This seems like a very immature topic of convo... Just sayin'...

 

This is the part whet we find out the OP is 21...

[BustedUpInside]

BustedUp, you're on fire today. I might retire at this rate!

 

haha! I have a few push buttons. One is definitely not accepting responsibility for personal flaws, and even worse, projecting on to someone else (even a whole group) by acting like they are the problem.

 

I mean, seriously, what is more likely. That every woman just uses PMS to do horrible things to men, or one guy is just a jerk who blames women for his problems............

[metal_chick]

haha! I have a few push buttons. One is definitely not accepting responsibility for personal flaws, and even worse, projecting on to someone else (even a whole group) by acting like they are the problem.

 

I mean, seriously, what is more likely. That every woman just uses PMS to do horrible things to men, or one guy is just a jerk who blames women for his problems............

 

Exactly. There's a point where we have to stop blaming other people for treating us poorly in our relationships, and start asking ourselves why do we keep ending up with the same ending over and over?

[L1ght]

Give me a break! You are the one who sounds like you have unstable, wild, mood swings. You take things that other posters have written and assume they are some sort of personal insult.

 

Whether or not a women is suffering from PMS doesn't mean that you aren't acting like a jerk. You, yourself, said that you "throw negative energy back" if you infer any "insensitivity" or "negativity" towards you. Maybe next time you are lucky enough to be involved with a woman and she says or does something that can be interpreted in two different ways: negatively or neutrally; you could just assume that not everyone is out to hurt your feelings or that if she does say something critical it is not because of PMS, but rather an honest attempt to point out where you could use some improvement.

 

Most women I know are not interested in acting horribly and then blaming it on PMS. I think it is pretty immature to assume that adults would do this. I think you are the one who is using PMS as an excuse for any time a woman has a complaint that you don't want to hear.

 

lol that's not hypocritical at all .....accuse me of taking everything personally and then go ahead and attack me personally. Don't shoot the messenger people, the majority of guys who have any integrity or balls feel the same way and we think its very disrespectful cos guess what? Women have a million issues that annoy the hell out of us too but for the most part we bite our lips and smile so we can get you into bed at the end of the night. No one is perfect and in love we learn to accept the failings our partners have even if they do behave like spoilt, selfish, insensitive, immature and damn right annoying brats from time to time. I guess perhaps its worth it as long as I end up getting laid.

[mtnbiker3000]

Exactly. There's a point where we have to stop blaming other people for treating us poorly in our relationships, and start asking ourselves why do we keep ending up with the same ending over and over?

 

Its funny. After a BU, everyone talks about hitting the gym and improving physically. Yes, this does have a positive personal outcome, but I have very little desire to do this as it is more of a temporary 'band aid' solution. Rather, even at age 41, I am taking a long, hard, brutally honest look at personal emotional issues (from all different ages and points of my life) and trying to improve those rather than physical. Although extremely difficult, I think this will help me more in the long run...

[BustedUpInside]

we think its very disrespectful cos guess what? Women have a million issues that annoy the hell out of us too but for the most part we bite our lips and smile so we can get you into bed at the end of the night.

 

Don't say "we" or "us" when it is really just you! Most men DO NOT feel this way. You are in the miniscule minority that actively dislikes women.

 

Now before you start crying and then ask me if I have PMS, no I don't, I just think you are a baby who would probably never say boo to a woman in person but feel a lot stronger screaming about how all women are "mean" to you when it's on the internet.