sarah1268 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Hi guys, Just looking for some advice. My bf and I of nearly 4 years kind of broke up back in April. It was kind of a strange situation, but just to give some background; things had not been good for a while, he was in a large amount of debt and he was unhappy a lot of the time. Usually when we were together things were good, but he had a lot of self inflicted issues that he needed to sort out. One sunday in April we got into a fight about how he left his car all weekend at a pub which was a 45 minute drive away from his place. He asked me if I could pick him up and drive him to his car ( this was very like him). I ended up taking him to his car and I was not impressed. Anyway we got into a fight and hes like look I think we should break up. I was a bit shocked and said, well if that is how you really feel. But since we were in a heated argument we both decided to wait 2 weeks and if we still felt the same we would make the break up official. Anyway, that monday night he calls me asked me to come over, which I did. He was acting weird all night, so I decided that after then I wouldnt speak to him for a few days, let him think about things. Two days later he msg me asking for money. I was pissed off and I didnt reply. That was the last I have heard from him. I have not contacted him because I am waiting for an apology to be honest- he never used to treat me like an ATM. Anyway as I said its been almost seven weeks and nothing- we used to see each other everyday! I know that this relationship is over, but after 4 years surely there has to be some sort of finalisation. He has my CD's and other stuff AND he owes me a fair bit of money that he always promised to repay and I just to want to work something out with him. Also, his parents were like my own and I want to say a proper goodbye to them. What do you guys think? Should I give him a call and say 'lets meet up and finalise a few things?' I dont want to leave it any longer otherwise its going to be so awkward. Please note- this is NOT a plan to ask for him back. I just can let someone who was such a huge part of my life just slip away without a proper good bye. We were close friends right up until the break up there was no fighting or hate of any kind. I feel like I need this to move on completely. Advice please!
2sunny Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 No, I see no reason to contact him. Figure the money and cd's aren't worth stepping back into any conversation with him...especially when he's been unwilling to policies or repay the money out of good faith. The only reason he'd want contact is if you're willing to give him more money. Hold out for a real man, one worthy of supporting himself and treating you right.
metal_chick Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 No. You're looking for reasons to contact him when there are none. 7 weeks is awesome, stick with it.
Leigh 87 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 If he leaves you for 7 weeks without a proper good bye after using you for a lift and asking for money, then honey, he does not really love you that much anyway. Or he is just a really selfish and crass person who might love you. But is way too much of a jerk for you to give a damn about him anyway. In either case, even if he does love you and have strong feelings for you still (which is unlikely after 7 weeks) it is still no reason to bother with him. He is too much of a jerk to bother with, even if he does love you. It is really low to low of him to your money, ask FOR MORE money and then ask you to be his TAXI, before just ignoring you and cutting contact! What a loser.
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