Feraligatr Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I'm 15 in 10th grade and I like this guy who goes to my school. I transferred school districts so this is my first year at this new school. Anyway I go into karate after the first day of school and he screamed "I saw you first period!". Well we always talked before 1st period starts, not really... just having pencil fights while being stupid. One day one of my friends in my class said "do you like that kid you always talk to in the morning." I said "yes" knowing that if I lied, she could tell because it's obvious that I like him. Now after a few months have passed, he ignores me and avoids me. I walked upstairs to my class 2 weeks ago, and unaware I looking, he walked the other way. In karate, he said "I've been ignoring you". I said "I've noticed". After a few minutes after that conversation, he said "People will think you are my girlfriend". There was an early dismissal for students at school because of a snow storm, so everyone had to go to their busses. Walking towards my bus, he walks quickly to catch up to me just so he could say "hi (my name)". I didn't reply to that actually because thought he was being sarcastic. Then in karate, my instructor found out I liked him and told him... He came into the room saying "I don't like you!". Then my friend was with us and she was saying "He likes you! He likes you!" literally giggling, smiling, and talking loudly. I haven't spoke to my crush since... In school, when I walk past him he gives me weird looks... I am trying my best to forget about him. (He is 14 in 9th grade)
KatZee Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 He doesn't hate you. He's a kid. He's immature, he has no clue how to interact with females. It sounds like he's still suck in the "girls have cooties" stage.
Author Feraligatr Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 I have to agree with that. I think he is an immature person. Though, for some reason, I still like him. I have dreams about him almost every night. I know inside he is not the right person for me. I will forget about him unless things change. Thanks.
KatZee Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I have to agree with that. I think he is an immature person. Though, for some reason, I still like him. I have dreams about him almost every night. I know inside he is not the right person for me. I will forget about him unless things change. Thanks. Listen, you're also a kid. You don't really need to be focusing on these idiots. At 14, he has the mentality of an 11 year old. Guys mature slower than girls. Focus on being young right now, and having the time of your life in high school. These years will fly, and then you'll be my age one day and wonder where they all went.
daisybuchanan55 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I know a lot of people will discount your post because you're a kid, but I remember how hard it was to be in high school. These interactions feel like the end of the world. The guy in your history class (or karate class in this case!) seems like the perfect guy. You think you've found your soulmate when the reality is you've barely hung out. Don't let anyone trivialize your feelings. You should embrace them and explore what it's like to like guys and experiment with crushes. What the poster above said, though, is true. He is VERY immature. The good thing is (and I know you won't like this), so are you. You're both figuring out how to navigate high school and interact with the opposite sex. High school is hard enough without having to worry about who likes and doesn't like you and for what reason. If I could go back and do it all over again with the knowledge I have now, I'd interact with all those boys I thought were soooo cool without a care in the world what they thought of me. 75% of them are major losers now anyway...especially the "popular" ones. In this case, I can guarantee you this guy is so immature that in the immediate future you probably won't get the reaction/results you're looking for from him simply because every high schooler's main priority is ME ME ME and how they appear to everyone else. Everyone is so self-conscious and awkward, even the people who seem to have it together. If I were you I'd concentrate on being friends with this guy and lots of other guys in your class. The guys I still talk to from high school were the goofballs I sat next to in history class and considered friends. I don't even remember the names of some of the "hot" guys. The ones I had crushes on, OF COURSE I remember...so will you...but you'll look back on those crushes and whatever happened with them and laugh to yourself at how young and clueless you were. Enjoy your friends in high school and don't feel bad if you have a miserable time at the Prom. I know this sounds like weird, random advice and you're only a sophomore, but if I had known when I was in HS that most of the "cool" kids I thought were having such a ballin' time were actually dealing with their own insecurities and issues, I might not have spent so much time questioning myself and worrying. 1
apple OR orange Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 i thought you had to be 18 to post / read this forum?
kassy Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Oh I love a good crush!! The above post is great advice. I'll add, high school is a great time to try all sorts of different sports and activities and to have fun interacting with others. Even if you like him and he doesn't like you, or doesn't know how too act because he was immature, just own your feelings. We all experience liking someone who doesn't like us back many times in our lives. It sucks, but life goes on, and soon there is a new crush and maybe that one will like you back. There is nothing wrong or embarrassing about liking someone and them not liking you back. If he doesn't like you, he should be flattered and both of you can move on. Crushes are such fun, the day dreams etc etc I vote for next time you see him just say hi smile and keep on walking. Just try and act normal and soon enough all will go back to normal with him. Lets hope the next crush is a little bit more mature (unlikely at that age but you never know) Enjoy high school, I had lots of fun, and don't get too hung up on dating. It will happen. But totally agree with chatting to everyone, it's a skill that will serve you well later in life.
PogoStick Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Ask him to see a movie. Or even just meet at the mall.
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