CarlyMarie Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Ive been with this girl for 9 months. A few months before, I went on the birth control shot depo provera (were both females, I went on birth control to avoid periods, as they were really intense for me). Seeing as this was my first relationship on the depo, I didnt realize until after we got together how much it was affecting me. Symptoms from this were little to no sex drive, intense emotions, where I would react to something like 10x worse than I generally would, and not wanting affection. It was a slow decline, though, as at first it was only a little difference, but the longer I was on the depo it got worse and worse. Along with that, it took me awhile to put the pieces together and realize it was/is the depo. For anyone who knows anything about depo, its a shot, and its in youre system for 3 months at a time. I went to my doctor to switch birth controls, but I need to wait until early July, so about a month from now, before its out of my system and I can switch. Our relationship has been going downhill for a few months, but lately its been getting really bad, and she ended it, saying if she sees a difference we could try again, but she just couldnt deal with it anymore. She ended it about a week ago, and we didnt talk for a few days. Then, we talked about 2 days ago. I started to get a bit upset because I missed her, and then my emotions kicked in. I flipped. Not on her, but with depression and anxiety, and I pushed the envelope a lot, pushing her away from me. The conversation ended with her saying she was just done. I got really upset, and ended up deleting her off facebook, etc. so I wouldnt see her and get upset. At the time I thought it was the best thing, as my emotions were completely taking over. Now, a few days later, im finally realizing it was my fault, and I could have just continued to be friends with her and waited a few weeks. I want her back, I want things to work out, but I dont want her to be pissed or not want me back in her life. Ive told her how this birth control makes me crazy and do things I wouldnt normally, and pretty much just makes me act like a 15 year old hormonal girl. Do you think I have a chance for things to work out? Ive been incredibly upset, and I miss her like crazy.
apple OR orange Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 so you need a time machine? well sorry physics says you cant have one.... have to live with it, cant help more really.
kassy Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 How about you write her an email and apologies for your behavior and say again, you just aren't yourself. Ask her if once the effects have worn off she would mind if you took her out on a date and see how things go. Say around mid July when hopefully your hormones have gone back to normal. Then explain that you miss her but think you are a liability at the moment and don't want to make things worse so want to just take some time out till you are back to normal. She may say no, she may meet someone else. In my opinion it is worth a shot. If it doesn't work out at least you will be back to your normal self when you meet someone new. I never tried the injection for that reason. I react badly to quite a few pills. Am on Yaz now and I'm so relieved it doesn't alter my personality. Sorry this happened to you, but at least it's something that will never happen again! Good luck!
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