defs Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Hey guys, so straight to the chase my girlfriend often tells me a lot of the problems she's having and opens up to me which is awesome because i feel like she trusts me. However, she often asks me why I don't share anything with her on the same level that she does but I honestly just cannot think of anything to say on that level.. She tries to encourage it by telling me to share things that make me angry or frustrated or worries or something but I honestly barely get angry if at all during the day.. I honestly have no worries that I am being bothered about.. What can I do?? Some friends have suggested making things up but I feel like that is terrible..
TaraMaiden Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Promise her that truly, there is little or nothing which really bothers or worries you at all.... except for the fact that she keeps asking you to share things that either bother or worry you! You love her a lot, and you promise her, hand on heart, that if ever something arises which you feel you'd like to approach her about and discuss - you will. She holds your heart in her hands. The only thing that worries you is whether she will be able to cope with carrying something so big with love for her..... Boom!!
Million.to.1 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Woman always talk and share more than men generally i think... so don't worry. I guess you GF just feels self-conscious sometimes after blabbing to you about her problems, you are doing all of the listening, so she tries to relive her guilt of having dumped that onto you by getting you to return it. It's not an unusual dynamic. But having said that......Nothing bothers you? .....Really? The world is pretty ****ty sometimes, full of corruption and selfishness. There is plenty to be bothered about if you choose to look. Not that i'm saying to focus on negative things, but something as simple as sharing a story about the unfair treatment of a colleague at work or reminiscing about the simple pleasures we had in childhood that are lost to us now in our busy lives, is sharing your feelings. I think maybe you GF just wants you to share more of your thoughts with her... Whatever they maybe. Surely your life is not perfect... you have challenges to face and fears to overcome, no? Decisions to make? Friends who do stupid stuff to deal with? Goals? Dreams? ....
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