emmalynro Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 About two years ago I dated a guy for a couple months. I realized I didn't have strong feelings for him and gently called it off. He has a history of depression and suicide attempts, and he didn't take it well. I decided to stop communicating with him because I simply couldn't take it any more; I deal with depression too, but his was so overwhelming and all-consuming and he was just so relentlessly negative. Over the past 18 months he's occasionally attempted contact. I've blocked every call and email but he just makes new accounts. At one point he demanded to know if I'd borne him a child (?!?!) and accused me of bad mouthing him to people I've never met. I put my foot down and told him to leave me alone. Just a few days ago he emailed me. He said he was sorry about everything, explained that he was actually having psychotic episodes, which had cost him his job. According to him it's all fine now because he's undergoing ECT and taking MAOIs. (He's had ECT before, so I'm skeptical of how much good it will do.) He is moving to the DC area, close to where I live. He asked if I would see him and promised to leave me alone if I said no. I refused and asked that he not contact me again. Despite promising that was his last letter, he wrote me yet again yesterday to ask if I wouldn't please please please reconsider, I was his only friend, he's totally not obsessed with me so what's the big deal?? Um, right. He has not threatened me, so I can't get an order of protection. My fear is that every time I "reject" him or ignore him, he will spiral deeper into despair. I am genuinely uncomfortable knowing that he is still fixated on me AND moving back into my town. He doesn't have my new address but it wouldn't be too hard to find. I'm afraid that his behavior might escalate. What do I do? Has anyone else faced anything similar?
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