Foreverandalwaysxo Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I know you guys all think that no contact is for the best and everything but I need advice ! My ex is leaving in august, so i most likely wont ever see him again... I was wondering if I should text him this : I just want you to know that I care about you, and if ever you need someone to talk to im here. And if we dont get to talk well i hope things are going to be okay for you." We havent talked for 2 months now, he was the one to contact me last. Hes going through a rough patch right now, and he has no one there for him... So should I make the effort to contact him?
OneNote Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 No! Nothing good ever comes from breaking NC...it's not your job to be his support system anymore. 2
CorridorE Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 No! Nothing good ever comes from breaking NC...it's not your job to be his support system anymore. Comepletely right. He left you, and it's no longer your place to be there to support him. Realize that your only job right now is to take care of YOU. I know you want to be there for him... but he doesn't deserve it anymore. 1
lovelifexx Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 If he broke up with you and you haven't heard from him in 2 months, then he doesn't want you to be there for him. If he has nobody else and he is going through a tough time now and still doesn't contact you, well then he really doesn't want you to be there for him. If he does, he will contact you. You don't need to tell him. Sorry My ex has type 1 diabetes and gets really depressed because of it. He was so happy with me and it really meant a lot to him that I took care of him. We broke up months ago. He has not met anyone since me. He knows I love him, but he doesn't want me to be there for him. That's why he broke up with me. 1
metal_chick Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Nope. Stay the course. He probably won't respond, you'll feel like crap, and then you're back to square one. Don't do it. If you're never going to see him again, that's perfect. Out of sight, out of mind.
chinacat sunflower Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 If he broke up with you and you haven't heard from him in 2 months, then he doesn't want you to be there for him. If he has nobody else and he is going through a tough time now and still doesn't contact you, well then he really doesn't want you to be there for him. If he does, he will contact you. You don't need to tell him. Sorry My ex has type 1 diabetes and gets really depressed because of it. He was so happy with me and it really meant a lot to him that I took care of him. We broke up months ago. He has not met anyone since me. He knows I love him, but he doesn't want me to be there for him. That's why he broke up with me. My ex was a diabetic as well. I feel that put a huge damper on things for him, emotionally speaking. Actually I know it did, but much more than he lead on.
BustedUpInside Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I know you guys all think that no contact is for the best and everything but I need advice ! My ex is leaving in august, so i most likely wont ever see him again... I was wondering if I should text him this : I just want you to know that I care about you, and if ever you need someone to talk to im here. And if we dont get to talk well i hope things are going to be okay for you." We havent talked for 2 months now, he was the one to contact me last. Hes going through a rough patch right now, and he has no one there for him... So should I make the effort to contact him? I know how hard it is to accept that a relationship is over. It's like you will try just about anything to make an excuse to stay in their lives. There are a couple of problems that you should think about when it comes to your situation. The first problem is that, even though he is going through this rough patch, he hasn't reached out to you. So, even though there is no one there for him, he still chooses to be alone and has not reached out to you. From the outside perspective, it seems like he has made his choice already and that choice is that he is not interested in having you in his life anymore. I know how much that hurts. I know it is hard to accept, but you really don't have any choice. You can't make him want to be in contact. I really think that you might be setting yourself up to be bitterly disappointed if you start texting him. I think it might be better to start worrying about yourself. If he really needed help, he wouldn't be maintaining a wall of silence.
Imperfectionsbeauty Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I would say do it...you are curious so what is the worse that can happen? He will just not reply. It's better to know then wonder "what-if"
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