CheckIt Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 So this girl came onto me and we hit it off. Long story short, we hung out and we had a good time and we both liked each other. Even from the beginning we didnt text non stop/24/7 and she would reply to almost anything i send. This week has been indeed very busy and she DID tell me that shes sorry if she doesnt text me a lot and stuff because she likes to do her own thing... When i look over my conversations it seems that she only responds if its a question type text, and not like before when she answered to statements. Well she did ask me something back a few days ago, but now she doesnt reply as much. We are supposed to go out next weekend but this texting thing is getting into my head. She also doesnt seem like she would text me first. I waited a day to see if she would text me and she didnt, but when i text her she usually replies within minutes unless shes busy of course. She doesnt reply with simple/dull/one word texts. Am i just over thinking this? Should i just wait till it gets closer to the weekend and see if she still wants to go out to the place we agreed to go?
Veronica2025 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Maybe she doesn't want to seem too desperate. It's a thing a lot of girls are taught when dating. To not text first. Maybe. Or you could be over thinking it. If she didn't like you she wouldn't text back at all.
Art_Critic Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I wouldn't sweat it too much.. some people are just that way. My wife is one of those, even today I'll say something like "did you get my email or text on xyz subject ?" and she will say yeah... I'll ask her why she didn't reply and she says it didn't have a question in it.. Try not to look to deep into this.. just go with the flow and have fun.
salparadise Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Am i just over thinking this? Should i just wait till it gets closer to the weekend and see if she still wants to go out to the place we agreed to go? Yes. I had a woman contact me a month or two ago. Very attractive and we had a high match percentage. We exchanged some messages, emails and numbers. Soon she dropped back to only short responses to questions, and only if I initiated. She lives some distance away. I took that as a sign of little interest and quit pursuing. Next thing I know I get a message from her that she'll be traveling soon (certain date) and could take a small detour and come here to see me. So we're now planning on it, but still this strange, short answer pattern where she never initiates. Now that I know she's interested I text her and send a few pics and so forth not even expecting a response. Sometimes I get one and sometimes I don't. But everything else point to her not only being interested, but very interested. Anybody have any insight on this rather unusual communication pattern?
Fondue Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I wouldn't put too much stock in texting. It doesn't mean much. I almost never text women. I just go by the assumption that, "if she needs to talk to me, she will." I will still pursue her in other ways, such as having ideas/plans ready to be discussed and entertained for future dates while still on the current date. This has been working for me for a while now. That, and I call a woman if I need to speak to her about something. Also, it gives you plenty of freedom. Do your own things! She doesn't feel like you are being needy, and she doesn't feel like she is being needy. Limit the communication for text, have all that conversation in person .
TheGuard13 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Most people are horrible at communication. I've noticed this especially happens with my female friends when it comes to texting. They never "initiate" and often don't even respond to pleasantries, unless they want something. Granted, I have some lousy female friends...
Eggplant Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 If I were a man interested in a woman, I would not rely heavily on texting, but rather dial the girl and have a live conversation. I personally don't get engaged in long conversations entirely via text messaging. I go about my business. I'm not waiting 15 minutes trying to decide if he's talking to me or not. If he wants to talk, call. If he texts me, I'll get back in the next 12 hours.
IJustWantLove Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Maybe she doesn't want to seem too desperate. It's a thing a lot of girls are taught when dating. To not text first. This is a chemistry death sentence. As the guy doing the pursuing, we never know if the girl is into us or not. When we get around you, we still feel like we need to prove ourselves, which causes us to not be ourselves. We come across as insecure. Not all of us, but only a guy with experience, or "game" can handle this type of thing extremely well. Lots of experience with this situation could = player. There simply won't be any chemistry if I feel like I've still got to prove myself to her. If she never initiates texting, that's what I read into it. She's just not that into me. The last two girlfriends, each lasted 2 years and didn't work largely due to my commitment-phobe issues, both rolled out the welcome mat for me in terms of initiating text messaging. I feel really hard for both of them. I have no use for women who sit on their princess pedestals saying "pursue me, pursue me."
Eggplant Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 The last two girlfriends, each lasted 2 years and didn't work largely due to my commitment-phobe issues, both rolled out the welcome mat for me in terms of initiating text messaging. I feel really hard for both of them. I have no use for women who sit on their princess pedestals saying "pursue me, pursue me." One benefit as a woman of choosing men who do pursue me is that they are less likely to have trouble committing. They are pursuing, so they are the ones setting the pace. Your pursuing girlfriends ... two years wasted! Ouch... 1
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