Ccakes Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 My ex and I are both teachers in a high school. We both started there the same year and from the start there was a connection between us. We started going out and things were great. People in work knew but neither of us publicly acknowledged our relationship. He was my first love, and I think that I was also his, even though we were both 23 at the time. Things were going well and I was so so happy. There were problems in the bedroom involving him not lasting at all long enough but I overlooked this because I loved him so much. All of a sudden he stops texting me and makes excuses about why he could not meet me. He ignored my phone calls for 3 weeks until one night he text me to say that he didn't want a girlfriend. I was devastated as I had built everything around him, my fault I know. Friends decided I should get over him by going clubbing so the next night we all went out. Inside the club he got one of his friends to brush off me so that I would turn around and see him kissing another girl. He also posted photos of them kissing on Facebook. We went back to school in September. I had gone on anti depressants at this time. I started seeing this new guy and I made sure this information got back to my ex by saying that I was going to Paris with my new boyfriend for the weekend. Naturally this relationship did not work out because I was so obsessed with my ex. We hooked up at our Xmas party, I thought he wanted to get back together, he just wanted sex. Again he could not manage to actually penetrate me so we just went to sleep. The next morning he threw me out. I began to obsess more over him, constantly checking his twitter. I text him to ask him could we talk, he refused. Another summer followed during which I was suicidal for some weeks. I went to counselling, useless. We came bk to school in September and I decided to no longer speak to him. This worked well for a while until we had a colleague's birthday and both ended up flirting again. He has since told me that he regrets letting me go but the atmosphere at work is toxic as I have been painted as the bitch. We have three months off as from today and I do not know how I will get through three months of not seeing him. Why can I not get over him ?!! Please help
lovelifexx Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 He treats you really bad. Not talking to him for three months is a blessing.
Author Ccakes Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 I'm thinking of leaving that school because I'm never going to get over him if I see him every day. I've heard from different people that he is still in love with me but I can't give him anymore opportunities.
Veronica2025 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) Do you have hobbies? Friends you do things with? Plans for the summer? Get out and live life. You are in a very toxic situation. First off: Don't date someone you work with again. Don't inquire or listen for gossip about this person. He's not good for you. You definitely need to invest in your life. Work on you. Take a break from dating. If you're not actually living life and have put the brakes on it because of him, you will never get over him. It'll hurt but you will thank yourself later. Edited June 1, 2013 by Veronica2025
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