aisuru Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) That is all. I am out of town as one of my sisters is getting married tomorrow. Time and conversations with my siblings inexplicably made me miss him even though I am in a good headspace lately. I find myself wishing I could share these moments with him. Share my family and siblings with him. Like he did with me. Meh. I know he isn't thinking **** about me. Just need to remember that. Edited June 1, 2013 by aisuru 9
Leigh 87 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 It must suck. You sound like you have your life together though, so at least you have things to do and things to be happy about! It is one of those really annoying things that comes up every now and again; missing someone you can't have. Even though you enjoy life, those pesky feelings cannot be helped! I guess you just have to think " well this sucks doesn't it". Do you distract yourself with a journal, or do you just sit there and feel the feelings without doing much to distract yourself? 1
Hockeyguy19 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 That is all. I am out of town as one of my sisters is getting married tomorrow. Time and conversations with my siblings inexplicably made me miss him even though I am in a good headspace lately. I find myself wishing I could share these moments with him. Share my family and siblings with him. Like he did with me. Meh. I know he isn't thinking **** about me. Just need to remember that. I hear you on that, it's those little things like weddings and parties that you'd always bring that person to that makes it the worst. I have a wedding in 2 weeks to go to that we were supposed to go together, she's not coming obviously but I feel blue thinking I'm going alone now. It sucks that the one person we want to be with us there is now off in their own world. Ah well, life goes on, right?
maturityassets Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) Its been the same with me for the last few days. Had some events with friends and all I thought about is it would have been great if my Ex was here with us. It really sucks, doing so well only to question are you really moving on? I'm starting to think that the part of us that still wants them in our lives is just reacting to us moving on and is trying to latch onto anything. It's total BS and I'm tired of thinking about her. At this point I feel she doesn't even think about me let alone talk about me. Whatever, her lost. I think what you're doing is right, saying he doesn't give a **** about you anymore because you just don't want to care anymore. I woke up depressed today but now after reading your post I don't feel alone and stupid in all of this. So Thank You! Edited June 1, 2013 by maturityassets
Hockeyguy19 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Its been the same with me for the last few days. Had some events with friends and all I thought about is it would have been great if my Ex was here with us. It really sucks, doing so well only to question are you really moving on? I'm starting to think that the part of us that still wants them in our lives is just reacting to us moving on and is trying to latch onto anything. It's total BS and I'm tired of thinking about her. At this point I feel she doesn't even think about me let alone talk about me. Whatever, her lost. I think what you're doing is right, saying he doesn't give a **** about you anymore because you just don't want to care anymore. I woke up depressed today but now after reading your post I don't feel alone and stupid in all of this. So Thank You! Your not alone man, I'm here with you, as well as aisuru and many others. They don't give a **** anymore. They don't think of us, miss us or care anymore. That's a harsh buts its reality and it sucks. I never thought she could act this way nor treat so coldly when we did talk, but I guess that's their way of detaching from us, they had time to prepare where we did not. I'm also tired of thinking of her and waking up sad and depressed. Mornings are so horrible. But they will get better, we will get better, we will meet someone great and the ex will be a distant memory, much like we are now to them. Stay strong, we can do this! 1
BustedUpInside Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Your not alone man, I'm here with you, as well as aisuru and many others. They don't give a **** anymore. They don't think of us, miss us or care anymore. That's a harsh buts its reality and it sucks. I never thought she could act this way nor treat so coldly when we did talk, but I guess that's their way of detaching from us, they had time to prepare where we did not. I'm also tired of thinking of her and waking up sad and depressed. Mornings are so horrible. But they will get better, we will get better, we will meet someone great and the ex will be a distant memory, much like we are now to them. Stay strong, we can do this! It definitely does put a little extra suck into missing them though, doesn't it. If I knew my ex was pining a little bit too, it would make the transition so much easier. I just try to think about it this way. Maybe our ex's are thinking about us, but we aren't going to talk to them to find out. We will all just have to keep moving on. Days where you actively miss them aren't going to be around forever. Keep your head up! 1
maturityassets Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Your not alone man, I'm here with you, as well as aisuru and many others. They don't give a **** anymore. They don't think of us, miss us or care anymore. That's a harsh buts its reality and it sucks. I never thought she could act this way nor treat so coldly when we did talk, but I guess that's their way of detaching from us, they had time to prepare where we did not. I'm also tired of thinking of her and waking up sad and depressed. Mornings are so horrible. But they will get better, we will get better, we will meet someone great and the ex will be a distant memory, much like we are now to them. Stay strong, we can do this! Yeah, Thank you man. Its just I was doing really well. Dating someone else, hanging out with friends, doing things to self improve. Just I guess a major set back the last few days, don't know why? Been having these weird dreams and the dreams just hurt, they either lead me on or just tore my heart out. Could be my friends confusing me, who keep saying her life is not well without me, but they are just as much in the dark as me and they probably read too much into her FB. Whatever though, its not of my concern anymore. We will get past this and we will say it was ages ago as you said. I wouldn't take her back even if I wanted to, she's not the right choice for me
insomniax Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Its comforting to see others going through things along the same lines as me. My ex only contacted me once since we split 3 months ago. She was drunk and supposdly tried to kill herself because of some fight she had with her new bf (whom she started seeing immeadtly or even before we split). So selfish yet despite my best efforts i still miss her, the good times and such. I agree with whats being said, maybe they miss us to but it doesnt really matter as they are not the right choice for us. I sure know that at times i am more or less screaming inside my head for her memory to let me be so i can move on. I know there will come a day when the lingering memory fades and the sadness is lifted. I will continue to push through and I hope the rest of you can do the same. 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Its comforting to see others going through things along the same lines as me. My ex only contacted me once since we split 3 months ago. She was drunk and supposdly tried to kill herself because of some fight she had with her new bf (whom she started seeing immeadtly or even before we split). So selfish yet despite my best efforts i still miss her, the good times and such. I agree with whats being said, maybe they miss us to but it doesnt really matter as they are not the right choice for us. I sure know that at times i am more or less screaming inside my head for her memory to let me be so i can move on. I know there will come a day when the lingering memory fades and the sadness is lifted. I will continue to push through and I hope the rest of you can do the same. That's kind of gross that she rang you, drunk, after trying to kill herself due to her current dude. Who she left you for? I mean. I hope you feel the slightest bit happy that you have the chance to now meet a girl that does not act like that? No decent girl would do that. At least you can now move on and find a decent girl, even though it must still such to miss someone.
insomniax Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Yeah it was pretty sad, she called back a few days later (drunk again) and told me next time she would be able to work the gun (she supposdly couldnt get the saftey off, whatever) i have explained more about it in my other threads. My final straw was when she ended up calling me a dick and said i was rude. She told me that "i dont think you are ready to talk to me yet" this was after i confronted her on her stories not matching up oof when she started seeing this new guy. I told her i hadnt contacted her for a reason (it had been two months at this point) and that i was doing just fine. She needs to learn to cope with her own emontions, i am choosing to not be in a relationship yet until i move completly on or at least feel well put together. She may realize that she lost someone who really cared about her that being me but if that day ever comes she has to have her **** straightned out. I dont think this will ever happen but at this point i am pretty indefferent about it.
Author aisuru Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 I'm finally back home now. JET LAG... I should be sleeping. Time with family does strange things to you. Add alcohol to the mix, and well, stranger things. Add strange, unusual family dynamics that I hide from... well, that's a whole other thread. Thank you all for your thoughts. I'm processing a lot of things about my life, family, me, and what I want in life. I miss him. I do. I know I'm just holding on to a memory of what could have been. Not so sure it's about him. Though I wish I could see him. I wish I could speak with him. All the typical bull****. All of my siblings have children and are married now. As the oldest of six kids(!), it's a little surreal, but okay, that I'm not married. I don't have children. Life crossroads... Blah, blah, blah. Lots to think about.
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