prettypeach20 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Hey, so I was seeing this guy that I work with for the past 2 1/2 months. We went on 7 dates (he initiated dates 1-4 and me 5-7). He paid for every date (I offered), drove an hour to see me, took things slowly (didn't kiss me until the 3rd date), would never use the 'busy' excuse (if he was 'busy' he would text me to reschedule a date), AND didn't even try to get physical! At the end of our 7th date he was randomly like: "I need to talk to you about something...I don't want a relationship right now. I am at a place in my life where I want to focus on my career etc." I didn't even ask/mention a relationship to him at all but he just decided to tell me that... After, I told him that, that was fine and that I totally admired/respected him for telling me this. Then we talked about being friends etc. which he's cool with. After this situation, guys puzzle me more than ever! What was the point of this guy going on all of those dates with me, paying for them, driving an hour to see me, taking it slowly with me and not even attempting anything physical with me, if he didn't want anything? What was the point of it all? lol I guess I am just super confused at his behaviour: he didn't want a relationship nor sex? weird. Your thoughts?
Els Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I think he had been interested in you in the beginning, but recently realized that you weren't right for him, for whatever reason, and he didn't want to string you along.
ascendotum Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I think he had been interested in you in the beginning, but recently realized that you weren't right for him, for whatever reason, and he didn't want to string you along. Yep I'd say the same thing. The first bunch of dates he initiated and then its been you since. I'm sure some cynics might say this is a typical strategy of a guy that's easing you into a fwb, and I won't deny that this scenario happens a fair bit, though generally this 'busy with career' line comes after sex. Maybe he plays a long game when it comes to fwbs or also just as easily after 5 dates with you he's decided there is something that's missing when it comes to you being his gf as he got to know you better. You're a great girl but he's just not feeling the passion for you. You may not be the only girl he has gone out with lately and someone else has him intrigued more, and the 'busy with career' is just a nice way of saying he's not interested now.
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