gd1039 Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Long story short, there is this girl I met 2 weeks ago. We went for coffee once and it was a good time, but I think things are slipping quickly. The problem is that even though I am amazingly outgoing and have a great sense of humor, I am nervous when I see her or when I talk to her, so my real personality hasn't come out and I come off as boring. Even today, I called her and earlier I thought of a brief story that I wanted to mention so that I could introduce some of my humor, but I get on the phone with her and I totally freeze up and completely forget everything interesting I wanted to say. I might be seeing her tonight, and if I do I know I can correct all of this (I have to or I'm done). But, if I don't see her tonight I need to set everything straight tomorrow. I want her to know that I have just been nervous, but I'm not sure how to or if I should just come out and say it. I think the best idea would be to just start showing her the real me, but I think that any longer and she isn't going to be interested anymore. Which brings me to my next problem, I'm not even sure if she is interested. I have been to oblivious to ever take an oportunity to put my arm around her or hold her hand let alone give her a hug or a kiss. I don't know what it is, I am not this shy but its burried me in a hole. So, supposing I don't see her tonight (or even if I do) what can I say to make it clear I am interested in her and have been nervous without comming across as a chump?
Scarlett_girl Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 well...I personally like it when a guy is shy at first! it's endearing! all I can say is don't put too much pressure on yourself..she's just a GIRL..not a godess so i'm sure she's nervous too..as for her being interested or not..she went for coffee with you?? then..i assume she's (at the very least) mildly interested in you..DON;T WORRY!
Author gd1039 Posted October 5, 2004 Author Posted October 5, 2004 scarlett - I kind of assume she is a little interested, but I think me having seemed so boring lately is or has killed it for me. I actually have a really good idea that I will do tonight or tomorrow, whenever I get a chance to see her. Bottom line though, I think I should address how I don't know why I have been acting so quiet around her and let her know that I am usually much more outgoing, but I'm not sure how to say it without sounding like a sap... I can't just say, "I like you but blah blah blah" Because I think it sounds pathetic. I guess part of my problem is that I am impatient for getting answers when stuff is up in the air like this. It seems like its always, a couple more days until i see her, or one more day until i resolve this, now its one more day ontop of that and so on...
Scarlett_girl Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 if i were you..i wouldnt tell her that you are usually more outgoing, that could be wierd for her.. just chill dude! she likes you-no need to fret!!!
Author gd1039 Posted October 6, 2004 Author Posted October 6, 2004 scarlett_girl - thanks for the advice. I did decide against the telling her the I am usually more outgoing thing. I think my impatience got the best of me when I thought of that (bad) idea. I am either getting some mixed signals, she is playing hard to get, she is trying to not hurt my feelings, or maybe she is just shy, so I am still not 100% sure how things are going. I did make a rather nice gesture today (IMO) and she seemed to appreciate it, but since I am skeptical I wonder if she was just being nice. I figured the gesture (ontop of making sure I brave up and be myself) is a much better idea than comming out and trying to explain myself. "Judge by actions, not by words" right? In any event, I'll have to wait and see how it goes....
netrie Posted October 6, 2004 Posted October 6, 2004 Communication is 70% body language---so the experts say! In fact, they say that "sex" can be used as a barometer to "how well or not" the two are doing... Netalia
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