Dudesmobile Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) So I ask my girlfriend every 4 months or so if she would like to come to my house and she still hasnt yet. We are in a committed relationship and it will be our one year anniversary tommorow. I am wondering if girls get annoyed by you asking this question? My girlfriend is super strict when it comes to certain things and laid down the law when we got into the committed relationship. We have done everything but sex and she specifically said no sex talk until we are both ready. Well ready meaning her. She knows im a virgin and am ready to give it up to her because i feel like I have a connection with her and am waiting. She knows I want sex and she is also the one making the moves in the relationship. Which she stated very early into the relationship. Her sex drive is 0 and I would really like to be able to touch her and make her feel good, but it seems like we only do that kind of activity every so often meaning once every 6 months. We have done everything but sex, but she still doesn't want to go to my house. She only makes moves when shes in the mood to. We see each other everyday and talk on the phone almost every day. So communication isnt the issue. All i want her to do is come over watch tv, and play video games. Yet I don't want to bug her to much about it because i dont want her to get annoyed. I am very happy in my relationship, but I want her to start showing me a little more affection. I know she has depression and I understand that but I am not sure how long it will take her to be comfortable enough to have sex with me or show me greater affection. I always want to kiss her and touch her but she has made it very clear that she makes the moves when shes ready/comfortable. It seems like we are going at a snail pace and I am just stuck her waiting patiently. I guess its better then not having her in my life at all. I care about her for her and I don't want to be with her just to have sex with her, I just wish there was more affection and that she would hangout with me in private but she is not ready for that either. Lots of times its wonderful other times its very frustrating. I am 23 and she is 22. Edited June 1, 2013 by Dudesmobile
Author Dudesmobile Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 You know her better than us. It's a good idea for her not to go back to your place even if it is just to "play video games" if she doesn't want to have sex yet. I am very respectful when it comes to this stuff and yes I do want sex but I only want it if shes ready. I just want to be shown a little more affection and not sure how to go about getting her to show that. Doesn't have to be kissing just holding hands, hugging, something to make me feel like I am doing a good job and feeling appreciated. I put in 200% effort everyday.
Keenly Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 This doesn't even sound like a relationship to me. A year and you don't have sex? She decides everything ? she barely kisses or shows affection ? She won't even come to your house? What is this madness... 1
BluEyeL Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 My ex waited 1 year for sex, but we made out a lot before, every chance we got, and mainly we haven't had sex in so long bc i was afraid of my parents (different culture, they were following me etc). In the end, I stole the key from an empty apartment that my parents had (they kept checking every day if the key was in its usual place, so run like crazy to make the copy:p), I copied it in secret, and we started secretly having sex there. I'm not sure why your girlfriend "is not ready" after 1yr. You should have a serious discussion about this, you might have problems in the future if things don't work well sexually.
shexy Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 In the course of an entire year, she's not been to your house????? Wow! She's not showing you any affection, after a year? This sounds like more of a friendship than a romantic relationship. If you've both decided to wait for sex until you're married, OK, but are either of you even close to getting engaged? I personally wouldn't want to even consider marrying someone unless we'd had sex,l because if there's no sexual chemistry, it's a little late to find that out once you've already gotten married!
ReelAhdvice Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) You really gotta take charge and be fluid. Make her want you. Tease her sexually. Hold her sexilly. How did you guys meet? Where did you guys meet? What is you guys sexual history? Is she a virgin? Edited June 1, 2013 by ReelAhdvice
todreaminblue Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Is she affectionate? like random hugs just to show she cares.......that sort of thing?...does she reach out often........does she hold your hand in public.....deb
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