DU505 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 So me and my girlfriend were dating for almost a year and a half. A little less than a month ago, she said that she wanted a break. So this break has kinda turned into a break up. Her excuse was that she wasn't in a position that she could maintain our relationship. She said that she couldn't be in a relationship right now and like you all are thinking i was skeptical of what she said, but I accepted it and tried to move on myself. I know that she has pretty much just been working and shopping with her female friends. We still talk and I know shes trying to get a manager job at her work so shes been working alot. We clarified that it was a break up, but yesterday we went to the beach. It was just the two of us and were making out and doing couply stuff the entire time. Im pretty confused about the situation. She said that she loved me, but she wasn't in love with me. And Im not sure that Im in love with her either. I still really care for her and I recently told her that I might be moving and she really wanted me to stay. She is transferring to my college and if I stay we will see each other quite a bit. Im getting the vibe that she wants to get back together, but just not now. She says shes in a good place with all the money shes making. Im glad for her, because since we split she has had alot more time to work. I know that she isn't seeing anyone or even talking to anyone. And when we see each other we show sexual attraction and I can tell she still really cares about me. The only problem is that we don't see each other that often anymore. I don't want things to turn into a friends with benefits situation. I just want to know how to maybe spark her interest in seeing me more often. And how should I approach talking to her. We still love each other, were just not in love. How do I fix that? How do I make her fall in love with me. Im sure it will happen when school starts, because she will be moving away from her parents and her job so she will have more time for me. I just want to know if there is anything I can do to speed up the process and make her fall in love with me sooner than that. As soon as possible actually. I mean I really want to be with her and I know I will fall back in love once we start to hang out again. Thanks guys. Appreciate it!
totallylost5040 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 First, you can't FORCE anyone to be interested again. All you can do is work on yourself and hope that's she's interested again, WHICH can happen, it just takes some time. Because honestly, forcing it will drive her away. If you find it hard to do no contact, then just send subtle messages, don't send anything that will spark a conversation, because then she has the chance to be annoyed. Women NEED to be busy, I know from experience that clingy/needy men are NOT attractive, so if that was you before you broke up. Learn from it if you want to get back with her and stay away and out of her business. Let her have a chance to miss you, honestly, I've dumped someone before and I was relieved for the first two weeks. But after that I did kind of wonder what was going on with the other person. But for me its not that this girl was needy or clingy, it was that she was crazy.. So as long as you weren't needy/clingy/crazy combined, you'd still have a shot to be "on her mind"
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