LilySun Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I still miss him like crazy, and want to break down if I think of him. BUT, now I might sign up for a summer art course. I'm going to buy a new guitar and take up lessons again. I have the urge to immerse myself into something new.I am just dying to turn this sad energy into something positive and self-reflecting. He was your typical athletic jock type...not to sound too judgemental but I'm the creative type and a hopeless romantic. I guess I'm starting to realize we are 2 very different people. I used to think opposites attract but guess I'm learning that's not always true. 1
BustedUpInside Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 BUT, now I might sign up for a summer art course. I'm going to buy a new guitar and take up lessons again. I have the urge to immerse myself into something new.I am just dying to turn this sad energy into something positive and self-reflecting. That sounds like a lot of fun and a good way to pour any negative feelings into something positive. I love how art and music can take all your emotions and then the product is always something beautiful. Good for you!! Hope you have fun 2
Author LilySun Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 That sounds like a lot of fun and a good way to pour any negative feelings into something positive. I love how art and music can take all your emotions and then the product is always something beautiful. Good for you!! Hope you have fun I agree with that I always wanted him to appreciate the kind of person that I am that way, but think he was just too self-centered to do that. He is a good man, and will make a great husband to someone oneday. But I think he wants someone who is more like himself, which I can not a accomodate I wish could more than anything. But now I know I cant. All I can do is go on being me. I think he wants the very confident, beautiful type who challenges him and I can't give him that. I am average, insecure and artsy, one who doesn't hold back emotions. He made me feel not good enough and all that does is motivate me to be good enough for ME.
BustedUpInside Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 He made me feel not good enough and all that does is motivate me to be good enough for ME. Exactly! You are the only one who can tell you how good you are. Everyone else can say you're awesome, but until you believe it, it won't be true. Perception is reality, so accept the fact that you are great and everyone else will know it's true as well. I hope you are congratulating yourself enough on your progress. You really are doing very well 1
J_L_C Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I agree with that I always wanted him to appreciate the kind of person that I am that way, but think he was just too self-centered to do that. He is a good man, and will make a great husband to someone oneday. But I think he wants someone who is more like himself, which I can not a accomodate I wish could more than anything. But now I know I cant. All I can do is go on being me. I think he wants the very confident, beautiful type who challenges him and I can't give him that. I am average, insecure and artsy, one who doesn't hold back emotions. He made me feel not good enough and all that does is motivate me to be good enough for ME. Hi LilySun, It sounds a lot like my situation. We broke up 10 months ago and yes, I'm still quite hung up on me. He would tell me I wasn't right for him because of the most ridiculous things that aren't actually crucial to a relationship. He'd say I wasn't "adventurous" enough (not sexually, but activity wise), that the way in which I went about making decisions made him think I was an "eff'ing idiot who wasn't too bright", he'd say he couldn't stand how I wasn't comfortable with my body, that I wasn't spontaneous enough, etc etc. He failed to appreciate the IMPORTANT things like faithfulness, honesty, trustworthiness, affectionate, supportive, etc etc etc. If a guy cannot recognize those important qualities in a partner, they aren't worth it. The other stuff is so superficial and those aspects of people generally change over time. But the qualities and content of a persons character do not and you should remember that 2
Author LilySun Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 I do think that he wants a woman more like himself-athletic and heavily into sports. That is not me although I do like some sports. I always admired his hobbies and career. Then here's me, a guitar player, music junkie, artsy type. It breaks my heart that its not interesting enough for him. I do not want someone just like me. I am more entertained by someone totally different because I learn things from them. It leaves the door wide open for sharing new things.
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