FailedFirstLove Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Guys I realized that I have this fear... It's been about 6 months since he left me. No contact for anout 1-2 months and low contact from then to now ... At certain points it seemed like he was going to come back so I kept waiting. But then other times when he has lots of places to go to and have fun, it didnt look like e was going to... He told me he still loved me whcih is why I waited. Recently about a week ago he told me he was stressing out... About jobs and stuff so don't contact him until he contacts me because he doesn't want to talk to people... I started talking to a friend and Everytime I would form some kind of feelings for this friend my ex would come back in my mind! Everything sweet his done for me comes back and I almost feel guilty!!!!! I miss my ex but I doubt he even misses me... I feel bad for talking to this guy, like I'm emotionally cheating. Does this make any sense to anyone? Sorry if it doesn't !
metal_chick Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 You need to go back to No Contact if you want a chance at curing the guilt. It's been 6 months, he's not coming back. Start looking after yourself and creating the life that you want. 1
BustedUpInside Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I started talking to a friend and Everytime I would form some kind of feelings for this friend my ex would come back in my mind! Everything sweet his done for me comes back and I almost feel guilty!!!!! I miss my ex but I doubt he even misses me... I feel bad for talking to this guy, like I'm emotionally cheating. Does this make any sense to anyone? Sorry if it doesn't ! Of course it makes sense! You still have very strong feelings for your ex and so when you try to move on your mind tries to remind you about the person that you spend a bunch of your time thinking about. Unfortunately, I think your ex might be using you for an emotional crutch. I don't think he would purposely hurt you, but his contact is hurting you by giving you false hope for a reconciliation. I think the best thing would be to just give yourself some space away from him for awhile. You need some time to heal yourself and think about what you really want versus what you are just used to. Maybe you will figure out that you really want to be back with your ex, but maybe you will see that it is better to move on to something new (i.e. your friend ) Just give yourself as much time as you need and be kind about your feelings. You are completely normal. If you spend some time reading through some more posts on here, you will see many people with common themes after a breakup. Good luck with being strong and I hope you feel better soon 1
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