assiral Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 (edited) So to keep it short, I've had two boyfriends my whole life and with neither of them I've experienced these "dating" rules and such. But now I'm back to the dating scenario and don't know how to interpret the "signs". I've joined an online dating website, met a couple people, this one guy got my interest. We've seen each other three times now, and I have no idea what's going on, so I just keep seeing other people and going out on dates, but all of my friends say I can't do it anymore because I'm dating this first guy. We talked every day for a week before the first date. First date it was his bday, he was alone @ his place watching tv, wanted to invite me over to hang out but didn't want to pass the wrong impression, I said that it was fine with me, so he said come over then. I went there, brought cupcakes and we stayed about 5 hours talking and watching tv. He was extremely polite, we eventually sat in the same couch and the only two times he touched me were to see my plugs in my ears, and to touch my hair. We said goodbye, he gave me a goodbye hug and I drove back home. We found out the many things in common we have. Second date (three days after) we met @ the movie theater (he paid), saw a movie, our arms touched while we were sitting and @ the scary parts, I would turn my face to his direction and he would stop watching the movie to stare at my face, but that was it. Afterwards we left my car in the parking stop @ the theater, got in his car and went to grab something to eat, talked more and he paid. He drove me back to the movie theater to take me to my car, so I could go back home. He gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Third date (five days after) he picked me up @ my place, we went to an ice cream place (he paid), than went back to his car and went to a park nearby my place, and stayed another five hours talking in the car, flirting, making jokes and such. Eventually he made excuses to touch me, hands, legs, hair, he complimented my clothes, purse, hair, nails, shoes, rings, everything. Then after a while playing with my hair, he finally put his arms around me and kept cuddling. We hugged, I lay my head on his shoulders, he said he wanted me to stay at his place (the first date) forever, and also said he one day wants to move south, and asked me where I would like to move with him (but we were kinda in a joking mood at that point). He "stole" a kiss (no tongue) in the last hour and after a little bit, we made out (lightly - no boob touching or anything), he said a bunch of cute stuff and was being very sweet and kind. Now we're planning the fourth date to happen in a couple days and I have no ideas for the date nor what to expect. Should I kiss him when I get in the car? Should I just keep it cool and see what happens? We're both kinda shy and I don't know if we're exclusive yet. We talk EVERY DAY for about 3 hours until 1-2am, and random messages through the day, and yesterday we were joking around and he said he likes me the way I am. I'm so confuse. Edited May 31, 2013 by assiral
Phantom888 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 You guys are really into each other. Great dates, and I can see the chemistry. Forget about dating rules. You guys are exclusive (unless he refutes). I mean, he's being a complete gentleman, mainly because he wants to know you better and he cares about you. Ya...kiss him deeply....show him you want him. GO FOR IT!!! 1
Author assiral Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 You guys are really into each other. Great dates, and I can see the chemistry. Forget about dating rules. You guys are exclusive (unless he refutes). I mean, he's being a complete gentleman, mainly because he wants to know you better and he cares about you. Ya...kiss him deeply....show him you want him. GO FOR IT!!! I totally feel like a teenager again! He's always finding excuses to keep the talk going, he even tells me what he ate for lunch, for gods sake! I've been told in the past (years ago) that I was too clingy and needy, so now I kinda act indifferent and "cool", while he's there throwing me winky faces and such. I'm so scared to scare him away, or to make assumptions, that I feel sometimes I could be more lovely but at the same time, I just try to keep it cool without texting him all the time. I'll try my best not to chicken out and give him a little kiss when we see each other, but yay, I'm so scared! 1
Author assiral Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 FIY, we were talking about his cooking skills and he said he would cook something for me then. And I forgot to mention, on the first date, he told me he has a tattoo and when I asked where, he just lifted his shirt and showed me the tattoo on his chest. Man, I really like him.
shexy Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 It sounds like it's going great! Don't overthink it, just enjoy it. If the moment strikes and you want to kiss him, I say go for it. I do think 3 dates is a little soon to assume your exclusive, but he's obviously very interested in you.
Cupcake10 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Awwww Try not to overthink things and just enjoy the moments with him! Just be yourself!
Author assiral Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 It sounds like it's going great! Don't overthink it, just enjoy it. If the moment strikes and you want to kiss him, I say go for it. I do think 3 dates is a little soon to assume your exclusive, but he's obviously very interested in you. Thank you for the constructive advice I'll try to listen to my heart hahaha
Author assiral Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Awwww Try not to overthink things and just enjoy the moments with him! Just be yourself! Thanks I'm trying not to overthink hahaha
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