KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm just creating this thread because I'm literally jumping out of my skin. I feel like a fart right now. I just can't be contained. :lmao::lmao: OK anyway, we met on Wednesday night. It was a singles event in my city and my friend found a voucher on LivingSocial. We were both like... ok we're definitely going. So we show up, and it's a bit lame at first, no one really that cute. So I navigate us to the bar so we can get some drinks and I stopped right next to this guy. He turned to me and started chatting me up, and he was looking cute so I used the questionnaire ice breaker thing that the hosts gave all the women. He filled out my form, and then we continued hanging out talking, he introduced me to some of his other guy friends, and we kind of just... hit it off! We spend the night talking, dancing (a bit of dirty dancing once some drinks kicked in) and just having fun. I took pictures that evening of him and some of his buddies being goofy and he told me to send him those pics. So he gave me his number and I shot off one picture but b/c there was no service I held out for the others. It was getting late so my friend and I were saying goodbye's and he's like aww you're leaving?? And then came right in for it and gave me a kiss on the lips! No making out, just a light kiss bye. My friend and I got on the train, I got off at my stop 40 minutes later, and a text comes through. From him! Saying it was great hanging out with me and how did my schedule look next week, would I want to get together? Eeeee! So I gave him Weds/Thurs as free days and he chose next Thursday to meet up. So, I've never even really dated at all in my life. Guys kind of like just fall out of the sky and we start seriously dating. So I was trying to figure out what he wanted, if he was really interested or just being nice... and as I'm thinking... I get a text! Him asking how my day is going... him asking questions about ME about my future plans with my job, etc etc. OK so we've been sending goofy texts just kidding around, and then today something happened at my job. And he's been really nice about it! Saying he's so sorry, and things will be OK... and then he asks me what I'm doing tonight... and I say that I don't have anything going on tonight, which is good since I need to now watch my money. And he asked if I wanted to get together tonight! So NOW! I have a date TONIGHT with him, at 8pm. :laugh: I know I'm getting way too psyched for this since I've only met him once, but I really noticed so much about him when I met him Wednesday. 1. He's obviously attractive 2. He's 32 (3 yrs older than me and not a stupid 20 yr old gig male) 3. He's got a career, and lives in his own apartment, and has a car! lmao (this shouldn't be so surprising but everyone on here can see the bums that try to call themselves men.) 4. He's Italian (my type exactly) 5. He's genuinely nice and interested in ME. 6. He was really respectful on Wednesday, and he has a close relationship with his mom / siblings/ nephews 7. He was super responsible, we were at the bar Weds and he didn't have one drink. Only water. 8. He actually followed up and continues to follow up! 9. Meeting up tonight, he actually offered to come to my neighborhood if it was easier for me. So we're meeting up right by me! (not my apt). This is the first guy I've even been remotely excited about in just over a year. It's a GREAT feeling when you realize your ex really isn't as amazing as you thought they were, and that you're actually GENUINELY smiling.... FOR SOMEONE ELSE. 8
pteromom Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Sounds promising! Just keep head and heart in balance and have fun! Can't wait to hear about your date. 1
pteromom Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I also have to say... That feeling of someone or something new being promising... that feeling of hope and giddiness and excitement and looking forward to what comes next... that is one of the best feelings in the world. Revel in it!!!! 1
Author KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 I also have to say... That feeling of someone or something new being promising... that feeling of hope and giddiness and excitement and looking forward to what comes next... that is one of the best feelings in the world. Revel in it!!!! Oh man it's wonderful and I've been basking in it all day today. As much as guys annoy me, if you are lucky and find a good one, these feelings are great.
shexy Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Cool! Sounds promising! BTW, where are you that men are falling out of the sky????? I need to go there 1
BluEyeL Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I guess I'm a bit cynical, because I met someone in almost identical conditions as you described and I'm not as excited, I'm cautious and keeping hopes low. Date is next week.
Author KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Cool! Sounds promising! BTW, where are you that men are falling out of the sky????? I need to go there bahaha, they always fall out of the sky and into my life no matter what the situation is. My last ex approached me on a commuter train. It literally is always so random.
Author KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 I guess I'm a bit cynical, because I met someone in almost identical conditions as you described and I'm not as excited, I'm cautious and keeping hopes low. Date is next week. Why are you cynical? Ever since being dumped a year ago and going through what I went through, I have an entirely new mindset in regards to life. I'm just happy, positive, and a "glass half full" kind of girl. I refuse to let my ex dictate my future, I refuse to let him jade me, I refuse to be angry, cynical or bitter. I go out and just make friends with strangers, I'll befriend anyone, just have a great time. I keep it light, fun, no drama, no stress. I don't have room in my life for any negative feelings or behaviors. Life is way happier when you're happy and just being excited for things to come. I think you should get excited! You could have just met a great guy!
iris219 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm very happy for you; however, don't get too excited just yet. I find it's better to have low expectations so that you're not disappointed, especially with a man you don't know at all. I hope the date goes amazing and that he's as awesome as he seems. 1
Author KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 I'm very happy for you; however, don't get too excited just yet. I find it's better to have low expectations so that you're not disappointed, especially with a man you don't know at all. I hope the date goes amazing and that he's as awesome as he seems. Eh, I like the giddy feeling. I'm staying grounded though. We spent hours together Wednesday, talked a lot. I'm getting good vibes. Hopefully those good vibes continue tonight! 1
clia Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Good luck! It sounds really promising. (And don't have sex tonight...) 1
Author KatZee Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Good luck! It sounds really promising. (And don't have sex tonight...) DEF not. I am not that type of girl at all. That's why I was nervous answering his date proposal lmao I didn't want to go to his place and I didn't want him coming to mine, but it's cool b/c he didn't even suggest either.
BluEyeL Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Why are you cynical? Ever since being dumped a year ago and going through what I went through, I have an entirely new mindset in regards to life. I'm just happy, positive, and a "glass half full" kind of girl. I refuse to let my ex dictate my future, I refuse to let him jade me, I refuse to be angry, cynical or bitter. I go out and just make friends with strangers, I'll befriend anyone, just have a great time. I keep it light, fun, no drama, no stress. I don't have room in my life for any negative feelings or behaviors. Life is way happier when you're happy and just being excited for things to come. I think you should get excited! You could have just met a great guy! Maybe I've just met a great guy, I do like him. I'm keeping hopes low, because I've been dating since January and I got excited before only to have my hopes crushed. So low hopes from now on and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. But for you, it's gonna be great!!
tuxedo cat Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 I'm probably just being cynical but I have a slightly bad feeling about this guy. But I reread your thread and couldn't pinpoint what it was giving me the feeling so it's entirely possible I'm projecting since I've had a few bad experiences with men recently. Maybe it's just that he's coming on kind of strong and that always makes me uneasy. Good luck! Just keep your eyes open, ok.
Author KatZee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 I'm probably just being cynical but I have a slightly bad feeling about this guy. But I reread your thread and couldn't pinpoint what it was giving me the feeling so it's entirely possible I'm projecting since I've had a few bad experiences with men recently. Maybe it's just that he's coming on kind of strong and that always makes me uneasy. Good luck! Just keep your eyes open, ok. He really wasn't/didn't come on strong at all. It was just conversation throughout the night, I got drunk and wanted to dance, so he joined me lol.
Author KatZee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 how did the date go? So this is why I HATE the dating scene b/c now I have no clue what's going on lmao. Wet met up at my local bar at 9pm. He drove out and came to me, we met there and we talked for 3.5 hours straight. I was making him laugh, we got food, he picked up the tab for dinner, and then he asked me if I wanted to hang out more and walk around, so I took him around my neighborhood, showed him everything, and then we couldn't walk anymore b/c there was nothing open and no where to go so he asked if I wanted to just sit in this park area to talk, so we did that for like another half hour. So he offered to drive me home, and he did, but he didn't make ONE move to even hug me, kiss me goodnight. WTF!
Author KatZee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 Oh wait, he just texted me right now. He's good! Following up on the date! Said he had fun tonight and initiated another hang out. Men. We women clearly do over think everything, don't we. 1
CptSaveAho Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 LOL i was reading the thread earlier and hoped you would have gotten laid he chickened out and we all know it. it couldnt have been more setup.. next time...
Author KatZee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 You need to go in with expectations low on the first date. You were warned... Ok, I see that you've already gone and things turned out fine. Almost. Don't ever get drunk on a date with a man again. Yea but no offense but I already wrote that I'm grounded and enjoying the giddy feeling. I don't see any problem having some good expectations. I don't need to be warned of anything. I also didn't get drunk on our date...
youngnlove89 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Well, at least he is taking things slow and his intentions weren't to get you in bed on the first night. He probably just wanted to make you feel comfortable. It's nice to just go out with someone you are attracted to, to drink and have fun with. How cute I'm happy for you! When is the next date?! 1
Author KatZee Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 Well, at least he is taking things slow and his intentions weren't to get you in bed on the first night. He probably just wanted to make you feel comfortable. It's nice to just go out with someone you are attracted to, to drink and have fun with. How cute I'm happy for you! When is the next date?! Haha we made plans for this upcoming Thursday. Curious to see if he enjoyed our impromptu first date and wants to still meet up then. He's seriously so cute. And his body/arms are amazing. And he's a fireman so he's just so yummy. And he came off so respectful the first night I met him and even more so yesterday. Fingers crossed! 1
youngnlove89 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 He's seriously so cute. And his body/arms are amazing. And he's a fireman so he's just so yummy. I just licked my screen. Hope that's okay. 3
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