NotCamelot Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 The frequency increased some for us. But what really changed was the fact that she was the one that initiated sex every time while she was involved with the AP. It was like her sexual appetite dramatically increased. (She even woke me up riding me.) Plus there were a lot more ILYs from her than usual too. Seems like once she started the ILYs and and sex with him, she greatly increased the same with me. WTF is that about????
Author dichotomy Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 The frequency increased some for us. But what really changed was the fact that she was the one that initiated sex every time while she was involved with the AP. It was like her sexual appetite dramatically increased. (She even woke me up riding me.) Plus there were a lot more ILYs from her than usual too. Seems like once she started the ILYs and and sex with him, she greatly increased the same with me. WTF is that about???? Hurtful. I suspect her brain was flooded with Oxytocin from sex with her OM ? So she was ridding that chemical high into your bedroom I guess? Most "new sex" involves the release of this into the brain Oxytocin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia I think some brains respond more than others to these kind chemicals - just like some do to drugs or alcohol ? Just guessing here and perhaps for some the emotional conflict between two partners is stronger.
busdriver Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 We hadn't been the most passionate of couples before the A, due to family obligations and stresses. But my A was mostly an EA. So when I felt "heightened" by that, I may have brought it home. But I had trouble "completing" since there is no way I could confuse my OW with my W. I never actively tried to pretend my W was my OW, but sometimes when my W and I kissed the fantasy would take over. But if it progressed any further the fantasy would fall apart (very different body types) and I would lose steam quickly.
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