jazzy9319 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm a college student and I still live at home with my parents so being as inexperienced as I am with dating and men, I was hoping you guys could help me figure out this situation. An acquaintance during high school made contact with me over a year ago. Not only is he handsome but he's a kind genteman who volunteers as a hobby. Unlike other guys, he's so respectful to me, never say anything that crosses the line (i.e. no overboard flirting, sexual remarks, or anything). We haven't really hung out much at all but he kept in touch with me online very often and always checks in to see how I'm doing, tries to make me laugh, and comments on how beautiful I am. At one point, he even confessed that he has some feelings for me. Probably about 6 months ago, our communication has changed. I read some of his tweets to another girl and I'm completely shocked this friendly sweet guy is talking extremely dirty with a s-l-u-t-t-y girl. Yet he still keeps in contact with me. What exactly does he want? He never talks nasty with me, so it made me truly believe he isn't a guy just looking for a fling, yet he transferred all of his attention to me towards this new girl..... I can't help but feel confused. What should I do?
umirano Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Probably about 6 months ago, our communication has changed. How? Don't you think that may be interesting for us, if we are to give you advice? I read some of his tweets to another girl and I'm completely shocked this friendly sweet guy is talking extremely dirty with a s-l-u-t-t-y girl.Most anyone I know of talk differently to different people... But if it's really out of character for him, you should think about how likely it is that he changes his true character when talking to you (or is it that he changes it for the other girl?) Yet he still keeps in contact with me. What exactly does he want?Does it matter? Do you see him as more than just a friend? He never talks nasty with me, Would you like it? Under what circumstances? so it made me truly believe he isn't a guy just looking for a fling, yet he transferred all of his attention to me towards this new girl..... Maybe he didn't get the signals from you that he was waiting for... I can't help but feel confused. What should I do? Depends on what you want. Do you want him? Show him some attention? And learn what his true character is, that should help you figure out whether he deserves more attention...
Keenly Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 So let me get this straight. He has been trying to hint to you that he likes you, is respectful towards you, and even told you 6 months ago that he had feelings for you. You did absolutely nothing about it, and now it bothers you that he is hitting on some one else ? "Oh the mind of a woman. To deflect a gesture only to question where it lands." 1
crederer Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 He's looking for a girlfriend. If you want to be that girl then make a move. He's single, he can text anything he wants to anyone that he wants. From a guys perspective, you gotta plant the seeds all over cause more times often than not, you get rejected. I'm sure if you made a move or showed interest he'd stop with these other girls. 1
Woohoo Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 +1 to Keenley. Basically he is respectful and wants a girlfriend, but he is nervous and doesn't want to make the moves. You wonder why he didn't make more forward romantic advances? Scared. And what you saw WAS his romantic advances, within his abilities. Guys don't know what you want, no one teaches us the moves, they change all the time we are just as scared. You didn't want to make the moves due to the risk involved so you didn't. Now another girl is up and your jealous. If you want it your gonna have to chase it, as respectful as he was, he can still be attracted by something new and shiny. Your going to have to isolate him and go for it. Set something up because you are in a losing match right now. Your competing for someone new.
Maleficent Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm a college student and I still live at home with my parents so being as inexperienced as I am with dating and men, I was hoping you guys could help me figure out this situation. An acquaintance during high school made contact with me over a year ago. Not only is he handsome but he's a kind genteman who volunteers as a hobby. Unlike other guys, he's so respectful to me, never say anything that crosses the line (i.e. no overboard flirting, sexual remarks, or anything). We haven't really hung out much at all but he kept in touch with me online very often and always checks in to see how I'm doing, tries to make me laugh, and comments on how beautiful I am. At one point, he even confessed that he has some feelings for me. Probably about 6 months ago, our communication has changed. I read some of his tweets to another girl and I'm completely shocked this friendly sweet guy is talking extremely dirty with a s-l-u-t-t-y girl. Yet he still keeps in contact with me. What exactly does he want? He never talks nasty with me, so it made me truly believe he isn't a guy just looking for a fling, yet he transferred all of his attention to me towards this new girl..... I can't help but feel confused. What should I do? I think you either didn't react fast enough or you ended up being friendzoned. what's wrong with dirty talk?
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