napy666 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Me and one of the guys I've been talking too brought up the subject of marriage and sex and he wanted to know why I hadn't had sex yet since I'm a Virgin. I told him I am still a Virgin because I choose to be and I want to wait until after I am happily married because to me that's the right thing to do and its what my mom told me, yes thats a view that most religions like Christians or Catholics use, and I've always thought seeing it in TV shows, movies, books, etc. That once you got married that, that was when you did have sex. But I am saving myself for marriage because I want too. He himself tells me this; "I'm not close minded to it nor am I against it and I'm not saying no to it. But in realistic people don't want to be closed or felt like it's a have to. I'm only 21 yes there are people who get married at 18, but I feel it's something that takes 2 to 3 years I'm just saying". So is this guy for marriage or not? I know I am 25 and I would like to get married by 30 years old which is not that far away 5 years will be here before I know it haha. What do you all think?
Treasa Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I think he's 21, doesn't know you from Adam, and you should focus on getting a job outside the house and getting hobbies and becoming more independent. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Me and one of the guys I've been talking too brought up the subject of marriage and sex and he wanted to know why I hadn't had sex yet since I'm a Virgin. I told him I am still a Virgin because I choose to be and I want to wait until after I am happily married because to me that's the right thing to do and its what my mom told me, yes thats a view that most religions like Christians or Catholics use, and I've always thought seeing it in TV shows, movies, books, etc. That once you got married that, that was when you did have sex. But I am saving myself for marriage because I want too. He himself tells me this; "I'm not close minded to it nor am I against it and I'm not saying no to it. But in realistic people don't want to be closed or felt like it's a have to. I'm only 21 yes there are people who get married at 18, but I feel it's something that takes 2 to 3 years I'm just saying". So is this guy for marriage or not? I know I am 25 and I would like to get married by 30 years old which is not that far away 5 years will be here before I know it haha. What do you all think? What takes 2 - 3 years? Deciding to marry someone? I don't understand his response. Anyway...you say you've been talking to this guy - have you actually met him? If not, who cares if he doesn't want marriage?
pteromom Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 If you are considering marriage, 21 is too young for you. Look for someone your age or a few years older. If your beliefs are important to you, do not settle for someone who does not share your beliefs. Yeah, it means the dating pool will be smaller, but you don't want to end up married to someone who doesn't understand you and doesn't agree with your values. In other words - this is not the guy for you, whether he wants marriage or not. Next!!!
Author napy666 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Why would you say NEXT if this guy wanted marriage? And as I mentioned in 5 years I will be 30 and he will be 26.
clia Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Is this the guy who lives in Georgia or the guy who lives in Pennsylvania?
pteromom Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Why would you say NEXT if this guy wanted marriage? And as I mentioned in 5 years I will be 30 and he will be 26. Because he is 21 and he doesn't share your belief system. Gotta deal with the now, not 5 years from now.
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