MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 It's funny how that works, maybe that's why movies and songs get away with their pathetic love storylines and cheesey/needy lyrics. OP don't send it please, come back stronger, not weaker. 1
innocentbutterfly Posted December 26, 2013 Posted December 26, 2013 (edited) Won't work. Take it from me. I sent my ex a quite romantic gift a month later after BU and NC for his birthday only to find out he's already moved on doing stuff with other girls. So this video won't do any better. He doesnt care anymore. Mine says too he cares that I'm happy now, but doesn't feel love (only sexual when he thinks our times together to make himself hot) for me anymore and doesn't want relationship again. And him 'caring' is probably just saying, because since he said it he only wrote me like once when he was bored. He rejected me 3 times in past few days convincing him. If they don't want and they moved on long ago, nothing will change their mind, sadly. BTW guys, help me understand what is GIGS? Edited December 26, 2013 by innocentbutterfly 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 Won't work. Take it from me. I sent my ex a quite romantic gift a month later after BU and NC for his birthday only to find out he's already moved on doing stuff with other girls. So this video won't do any better. He doesnt care anymore. Mine says too he cares that I'm happy now, but doesn't feel love (only sexual when he thinks our times together to make himself hot) for me anymore and doesn't want relationship again. And him 'caring' is probably just saying, because since he said it he only wrote me like once when he was bored. He rejected me 3 times in past few days convincing him. If they don't want and they moved on long ago, nothing will change their mind, sadly. BTW guys, help me understand what is GIGS? Thanks, it really knocked some sense into me. It seems if they cared at all, they would put some "effort" to try to reconnect. There's a whole forum on GIGS. It's mostly for younger age group who leave reasonably good/stable relationships for something that's fleeting (though it may not appear so in their eyes). Most realize what they've lost at some point. That's just my take on that "theory" (idea), from what I've read on here
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted December 26, 2013 Author Posted December 26, 2013 A bit off-topic: Sometimes I play with the idea of starting a Loveshack army. What often happens after a breakup, especially if it was a LTR, is that you've lost contact to many of your old friends. Some of them might even be a bit angry at you for neglecting them during all these years. I strongly believe that you should do things for yourself and that as long as you're happy with what you do, you shouldn't care about what others think. But I can't deny, when I've hit the bottom, some appreciation and kind words can really help me through the day. The problem is, that Facebook/YouTube is based on a "Robin Hood in reverse" system. If already you're popular, you'll get a lot of attention no matter what. You may write "omg what a day!!" and the message will show up everywhere. But if I post a link to something I've been working on for weeks, most people won't even see it. Your ex will find a way to check you out from time to time and say "yep, it seems I made the right decision, nobody cares about him/her, while everybody seems to love everything I post". And the new people we date may also wonder why nobody seems to care. In the long run, you have to work on your social skills and get even more talented, so that you actually deserve the admiration. But it wouldn't hurt to get a helping hand in the beginning, because it's hard to reach the top when you've got few friends and very low self-confidence. My idea is basically: 1. Find yourself a hobby. It might be writing songs, making movies, writing short stories, carpenting, anything that helps you take your mind of things. 2. Post it here. 3. Let the Loveshack army support and encourage you to become even better. Chances are that this would be enough to create a snowball effect. More people would discover your work, new people that you meet would realise that you are the "real deal" and not some weirdo sitting at home sulking all day . This would help you gain confidence and after a while, you'd be fine on your own. The Loveshack Army has done it's job. I almost feel ashamed for writing this, but the truth is that people spend so much time on the Internet that it's impossible to neglect it's impact. Whether you're applying for a now job or looking for a new partner, it won't look good if it seems that nobody cares about what you're doing. Most people are rather shallow. If you write a short story about your broken heart and send it to your ex, it will look pathetic. If you post on the Internet and thousands of people love it, you will demonstrate higher value instead. You are brilliant! I appreciate you sharing such a wonderful idea. I agree that many if not most of us neglect the impact of the internet. Now the hardest part is to get started....
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