Dont know how to flirt / date / read signs, really bad past break up, low self esteem

[richard9]

Hi all, i've only been in one relationship before, that was for 2 years and ended when she met a new group of friends and wanted to be free and single (GIGS), i was devastated, i loved this girl with all my heart, i did everything for her and she meant everything to me. She threw me away like i meant nothing, literally going to meet guy the day after we broke up. It's been around 7 long months since BU, its been the hardest thing ive ever been through.

 

Recently i've met this girl, we havent talked much really, but she invited me to her Muay Thai class as i do kickboxing and she said she would really like me to go. I've texted her a few times and she always puts plenty of kisses, to be honest i've been a bit more guarded but tried to put the same number of kisses back lol dont want her to think im chasing her if shes not interested.

 

My question is, i've got no idea how to date! i mean with my last relationship we were friends and things just sort of developed. i felt an instant connection and knew we were meant to be together (forever i thought), i havent got a clue how to flirt. i have a few silly insecurities about my appearance, although my guy friends say im a pretty good looking guy. im scared of how this thing may develop, i mean maybe she just wants to be friends, but ive got no idea how to read the signs.

 

I think im almost over my ex, even though i still think about her especially as its now summer here and we had some great times in the summer months. and i think there could be something here, but i sense my self esteem is still a little low because of my past break up, and especially my lack of experience with girls.

 

If anyone relates to this or could give me some advice it would really be appreciated because i havent a clue and dont want to lose a potential possible relationship happening because i have not read the signs.

 

Also if i tell her i havent really dated girls before would she see it as a bad thing? Also sexually im not the most experienced guy in the world as me and my ex didnt really do that much.

 

Feel like im starting back at square one and to be honest im scared of what i feel are my inadequacies. Any help?

 

p.s. on a plus note i do feel like i have something to offer, i mean im not a player, im thoughtful, caring, sensitive kind. Even though my ex took advantage of me and it seems (some) women actually dont like guys who are like this, i have not changed and dont really want to change, i'm a good guy. i would never cheat on a girl, lie to a girl, i would always stand by a girl and would listen and respect a girls feelings.

Edited May 31, 2013 by richard9

[hppr]

That was pretty much the relationship I was in when I was 23-24.

 

Just take things slow with this one, hang out, go to a movie, whatever. If you feel good about it then take her back to your place and spend the night together some time, or her place. Don't put lots of pressure on it or figure that she's going to 'be the one' and if she says something about you being hesitant, or slow-moving just tell her that you had a bad breakup a few months' ago that's all. She doesn't need to hear the details 'bad breakup' is more than enough.

[richard9]

Thankyou! Anyone else?