futuretake Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 alright so i am new to this site. most people would think this is a no brain kinda deal. the ex breaks up with you and you meet new girl, the ex wants back..stick with the new girl. but my problem is a bit skewed, see my ex and i fought a lot for the last 6 months on our relationship and we broke up march. now during that break up things went sour and she went all crazy blaming me for an abortion we had earlier in our relationship(1 1/2yrs in) and that she was at the doctor and they were telling her that she could not have kids again. with lack of detail i thought that was already dealt with when we made the decision, i do relize that could haunt a lady.. soo i totally took it to heart and felt i should totally just leave her alone. we broke up after being together for 3 yrs. i moved on 2 months after the bad break up and things seemed okay the new girl(1 week from today) is great we get along, its all happy an rainbows. however 4 days ago my ex texts me saying that "i want to apologize for saying i couldnt have kids, i lied and it was really dumb of me to do that and i am sorry i just wanted to hurt you and make you feel bad, but the truth is im pregnant again and its yours and ive been pregnant since feb and decided to get another abortion. i hope you can join and support me, and i think it would be a good time for us to maybe fix things." Now as shocking as that is she does not know about the new girl. i clarified that i am confused, but i am able to take on my responsibility if this is what she wants, to be honest i rather keep the child but im only a opinion when it comes to a womans body. i have also explained the situation with my new girl, at first she was like this is gonna be manipulative and you may get back together with the ex. she was somewhat right cause i do still care for the ex, however i do not feel that a woman who would say something like that to just hurt me should deserve my attention. but on the other hand she is preggo and wants to deal with it and that is my responsibilty anyways. granted some feelings are coming back but im holding a grudge over the ex's lie. in short i dont know what i should do. should i just take care of the ex's business and continue to move on with the new girl. should i just cut the new girl out right away and then try and see if the ex as changed. should i ask more questions to get more reasons out of the ex. i feel there is an obvious answer but nothing is ever clear when your looking inside the glass:P
Author futuretake Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 kind of a silly thing to not notice right. yeah the ex issue was definately not needed, just feels like its there to rock life's boat 1
rabbledabble Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 New girl! You haven't reached your happiness with your ex. Sometimes it's worth the risk but since you're iffy about the situation it's better to move on. Your ex might be blocking your journey to meeting the ONE. Take a chance and see where the future will take you with the new girl! (:
smorgenHeckengard Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Be there for the ex in her time of need (if she is pregnant) but stay with the new girl.
Sunshine87 Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Is she really pregnant? If she is....I reckon you will eventually get back together because she will manipulate you.
veggirl Posted June 1, 2013 Posted June 1, 2013 Ask her to take a preg test with you. She has proven to be a liar over a huge thing, I wouldn't trust her. New girl all the way. Why would ex wait 4 mos to tell you she's preg and to have an abortion. Totally fishy.
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