mtnbiker3000 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 SAME. I do not care if it is my own MUMS wedding. No one who cares about me would want to subject me to that torture...... Your best friend will not feel that much pain over you not attending for good reasoning. You, on the other hand, will be feeling a lot of pain due to having to attend..... Good advice, Leigh... I agree...
Author lovelifexx Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Even though I feel like this now, i know looking back i will regret that i didnt go over a guy. I am not planning on staying long. I will leave shortly after the dinner. I know he isnt bringing a date. 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I do applaud you for being strong enough to suck it up for your friend. I can tell that is why your doing this, it's not like you are thrilled at the idea of seeing him! I would not have been able to go through with it. The fact that you found out in advance that he is not bringing anyone is excellent. Your heart would have dropped if he brought some beautiful date:sick: Good luck! And be careful where this leads, lovelifexxx. I mean, people tend to look extra pretty at weddings, and if he is very single and you both have feelings left for each other, please be cautious of any interest he shows. It may be because he is single, horny, and misses and likes you as a person. Putting myself in your position; frankly, I would talk to him a little and gauge the situation. If it was clear as day that we had unresolved feelings, I would continue. If he did not allude to much, I would simply acknowledge him and then not talk to him at all. Just be polite and excuse yourself from the conversation. I mean, unless he wanted me back, I really would rather poke my own eyes out then chat to an ex. Personally, I do not ever want to be friends with my ex, unless I find fall in love with another committed partner and I am indifferent to him sleeping with other people. Otherwise, I would suss out if he wanted me back, and if not, leave him be and never intend to talk to him again unless I had to. Sorry I had to add that in, it is only because of how pretty people look at weddings and the fact your both seemingly "single".
Leigh 87 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Not to mention - I feel really sad when I hear about weddings. Since I thought I would marry the last dude. I guess after a few months you stop crying at the thought of weddings, right?
SweetiePie12 Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Putting myself in your position; frankly, I would talk to him a little and gauge the situation. Me, too. Just a little "hey, how's it going, I'm doing GREAT!!!" & keep it moving, all smiles.
Author lovelifexx Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Hi. Well here is my update. It went well, i survived anyways. I looked great and felt confident. His best friend told me that he was acting so nervous when they were getting ready. I spent most of the night dancing with his best friend who im friends with too now. But my ex avoided me like the plague. He is clearly really uncomfortable around me. It makes me really sad... 1
Ajax Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Congrats, lovelifexx. It sounds like you handled the situation as well as anyone could have. You faced down your fears and showed how strong you are. Well done! 3
Author lovelifexx Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Well i cried all day the day after, but at least it wasn't infront of him!
SweetiePie12 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Hi. Well here is my update. It went well, i survived anyways. I looked great and felt confident. His best friend told me that he was acting so nervous when they were getting ready. I spent most of the night dancing with his best friend who im friends with too now. But my ex avoided me like the plague. He is clearly really uncomfortable around me. It makes me really sad... He is clearly not over you! You guys may reconcile...!
SweetiePie12 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Well i cried all day the day after, but at least it wasn't infront of him! I forget: are you guys NC? I am sad to hear that you cried.
Author lovelifexx Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Well i have tried to talk to him on a few occasions. But he doesnt think its good to keep in contact and he wont say why. We have mutual friends and run into each other. But he literally runs the other way faster than usain bolt. Yes i think he has feelings for me, but he's obviously determined to ignore them and move on...
Treasa Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You did awesomely. Don't even think about reconciling. Just be proud of the fact that you went, looked great, and handled it better than he did. Good job! 4
KatZee Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 He is clearly not over you! You guys may reconcile...! Please don't write things like this on the BU forum. Hope like this is horrible to have. It's naive and wishful thinking. Leave it off.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Please don't write things like this on the BU forum. Hope like this is horrible to have. It's naive and wishful thinking. Leave it off. Agreed. No one here needs to have this nugget to think about. Our minds are already spinning fast enough...
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