CarlyMarie Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 My first love and I broke up, and she said she wanted to remain friends. Cliche, I know. Never works, I know. I guess im almost keeping it as a door for us to possibly be together in the future, but at the same time I know not to hold onto that hope. Would it be possible for me to get over her while remaining friends and talking? Or would I need her out of my life for a bit in order to move on completely?
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Nope. Ain't gonna happen. You cannot be friends with someone you still have feelings for. 1
iouaname Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Yes. I've never heard of anyone who never got over their ex? I would think attempting to stay friends though would be more painful for you, though. I also don't think there is a real strategy for getting back together, there isn't really a right choice for that. It's either going to happen, or it isn't.
metal_chick Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 It will more than likely end with you getting rid of the 'frienship' anyway. Why do you want to be friends with your ex?
CarrieT Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Would it be possible for me to get over her while remaining friends and talking? Or would I need her out of my life for a bit in order to move on completely? I am one of those who has really good relationships with all my Ex's - even my First Love (from 35 years ago). However, I firmly believe that there needs to be some apart-time from each other to heal before the friendship can work. As long as there is still a modicum of "desire" or "want" than - no - the friendship can't occur yet.
SuperGeek Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Wow, I could not do that. I hope my ex(s) are doing good and all that, but I just wouldn't know what to talk to them about. Also some of them I just don't really want to talk to anymore. I am one of those who has really good relationships with all my Ex's - even my First Love (from 35 years ago).
Eddie Edirol Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 If you are holding on to hope and she isnt, you cant be friends anyway, so tell her no way, and stand your ground. She will have to deal with it. You need her out of your mind so you can focus on life and new women anyway. Dont hold onto hope when youre not certain she will consider getting back with you. You could find someone better anyway. Just start looking. You will especially need her out of your life when she gets a new bf before youre ready to see it.
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