Iseenamandie Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 About a year ago, she moved from ohio to southern california to be with me. I have my own apartment near newport beach/costa mesa and I'm very lucky because $1025 a month is the cheapest rent you can ever find here. I'm 26, she's 18. She left her dog behind with her best friend. Since she has moved here, she has gotten a good job, and I also have a pretty good job. Both of our jobs are so close to home that its amazing. We also bought a good car because we were able to put our money together.*Now comes the problem. Her best friend has come to visit a few times and she wants to move in with us. My girlfriend also wants her to move in with us. I finally agreed with her moving in because we would save money. Problem is, my girlfriend wants to have her dog also and my apartments doesn't accept dogs. Neither does any apartment near the beach or remotely as close to our jobs (our jobs are near the beach). If they do accept dogs, they charge atleast 1400 to 1600 a month for rent and we can NOT afford that even if we split the rent in three ways. On top of that, the dog is a pitbull/shepard mix so most places won't accept him anyway.*Another fact is that right now, I can afford to pay the rent by myself if my girlfriend and I broke up and she decides to go back home, or if she looses her job. If we move into a more expensive place and break up, I'm screwed. I have no family here and my family is poor. Her family has a lot of money so she has nothing to worry about.*The only way that we can afford a place that accepts her dog is if we move to a less desirable neighborhood wich would be far from our jobs. I don't want to risk not making it to work, and I don't want to live in a less desirable neighborhood, especially for a dog.*I already agreed on the bestfriend moving in, so I can't take that back. But I really don't want to move to a whole other location and make life harder just for a dog. I didn't even want the friend moving in at first but I agreed because it would save us a lot of money, and my girlfriend would be happy since she has no friends here.*Another thing, my credit is bad. The only way I have the place I do now is because my parents left it for me when they moved out of state. If I move out, ill never be able to find another place in this location.*Well sorry this was so long. Thanks a lot if you read it. And please if you have any advice, help me out. Have a good day and thanks again.
Scrab22 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Your case is rather complicated. Let's look at your GF for a moment. She has a great family and great economic state. I'm sure her family takes care of the dog really well. It does sound more complicated to take the dog to your place. How about offering her to visit her family occasionally (you can also offer to come with her) instead? As for having friends around, it's nothing to worry you. She has YOU! Maybe she is a bit uncomfortable without someone of her gender. It's ok that you've let her close friend move in. I think your girlfriend must understand that the world is no dream-world. She's just turned into an adult, and you've experienced allot more. Explain the situation, tour her around, and try your best to make her fit in your area.
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