Date number 2

[somedude81]

ROFL!

 

And of course I don't have a clue what's going on

[JuneJulySeptember]

 

All right, I'll let you off just this once. But just to make your head spin, after you kissed me and blurting out that i had the feeling it was going to happen, I was left with the feeling wanting more and wishing you had really gone for it and really kissed me. Sleep on that. Good night. Sweet dreams

 

Then I replied " He he, you're so bad. Now how am I supposed to fall asleep?"

 

So yeah, apparently she wanted tongue.

 

?

 

Awesome. Sounds like you're in! I can't honestly say I've had a woman say that to me so candidly, so you might have just leapfrogged me!

 

The "apparently she wanted tongue" part sounds juvenile though. I wouldn't say that kind of stuff to her. Though she is 20. I wouldn't know what maturity level to use with women of that age, because I've never dated women of that age.

[Eclypse]

ROFL!

 

And of course I don't have a clue what's going on

 

Come on man!! Surely anyone can interpret that conversation?! I'll give you a translation anyway: "I WANT YOU BAD NOW".

[veggirl]

Wow!!! She is all about you SD. Hang out with her again soon!!!

[ThaWholigan]

Woooooooow

 

Where are those bb forum misc "in" gifs when you need them?

[Els]

And she just threw the gates WIDE OPEN for you man. Holy crap.

 

I see lots of gushy gushy wet wet in year near future.

 

ROFL this cracked me up. :lmao::lmao:

 

Yes, REALLY kiss her the next time. And then some.

[somedude81]

Awesome. Sounds like you're in! I can't honestly say I've had a woman say that to me so candidly, so you might have just leapfrogged me!

 

The "apparently she wanted tongue" part sounds juvenile though. I wouldn't say that kind of stuff to her. Though she is 20. I wouldn't know what maturity level to use with women of that age, because I've never dated women of that age.

Of course I know not to say that kind of thing to her. That was one of my own thoughts that I'm sharing with my loyal fans.

 

So she was being pretty candid?

[JuneJulySeptember]

Of course I know not to say that kind of thing to her. That was one of my own thoughts that I'm sharing with my loyal fans.

 

So she was being pretty candid?

 

Yup. I can't recall any woman being that candid with her attraction to me.

 

Sounds like you scored big dude!

 

Was it the one on the right with the 4 girls in the pic you sent me?

 

A little bit jealous of you actually , but really happy for you man.

[ThaWholigan]

Of course I know not to say that kind of thing to her. That was one of my own thoughts that I'm sharing with my loyal fans.

 

So she was being pretty candid?

She was quite openly telling you how hot she is for you right now. You just have to keep doing what you're doing and escalate.

 

It has happened to me before and trust me, just like you, I had no idea how to react or how to deal with it correctly and in the end I thought myself into anxiety and ended up doing nothing. Granted, my situation was less concrete than yours - there's no ambiguity here, she's into you. All you have to do is keep doing what you're doing. You're most certainly in.

[tman666]

Of course I know not to say that kind of thing to her. That was one of my own thoughts that I'm sharing with my loyal fans.

So she was being pretty candid?

 

Yeah man, I think she's being pretty forward with how she'd like this to go.

 

Arrange date 3, stat. Make out with her (for real this time).

 

1) Gently, yet with conviction, pull her in close to you via the small of her back. Maybe even one hand on the back of her neck/rear of her jawline. After making out for a while, move on to kissing collarbones/neck/earlobes.

 

2) Lift up her shirt, kissing her ribs, making your way down to her belly button, then unbutton/unzip her pants.

 

3) Keep moving south

 

4) a little further south

 

....

You can do this.

[ffw]

Boob groping or ass grabbing - if it's appropriate GO FOR IT!

 

Just don't report back - please!

 

Yeah man, I think she's being pretty forward with how she'd like this to go.

 

Arrange date 3, stat. Make out with her (for real this time).

 

1) Gently, yet with conviction, pull her in close to you via the small of her back. Maybe even one hand on the back of her neck/rear of her jawline. After making out for a while, move on to kissing collarbones/neck/earlobes.

 

2) Lift up her shirt, kissing her ribs, making your way down to her belly button, then unbutton/unzip her pants.

 

3) Keep moving south

 

4) a little further south

 

....

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You can do this.

 

 

Lol. Are you giving step-by-step tutorial?

[tman666]

Lol. Are you giving step-by-step tutorial?

 

It is but one possible route. Infinite universe, infinite possibilities.

[xxoo]

somedude, I'm thrilled that this is happening for you.

 

But I want to interject that it is also so very normal! It should be this easy. And, since this probably won't be your last relationship, it will be this easy again, now that you can see first hand how it works, and how it feels when it is working.

 

Just great stuff. I'm so glad you are finally experiencing it

[TheGuard13]

Date 2 was cursing around a nice outdoor mall, getting lunch, then walking around Laguna, getting gelato, then we went to a beach, different than the first.

 

Ah, see, this is why she's interested and its going so well.

 

Women like bad boys.

[somedude81]

Yup. I can't recall any woman being that candid with her attraction to me.

 

Sounds like you scored big dude!

 

Was it the one on the right with the 4 girls in the pic you sent me?

 

A little bit jealous of you actually , but really happy for you man.

Nope, it's not any one of them. But she is greater than or equal to the hot girl in that picture.

She was quite openly telling you how hot she is for you right now. You just have to keep doing what you're doing and escalate.

 

It has happened to me before and trust me, just like you, I had no idea how to react or how to deal with it correctly and in the end I thought myself into anxiety and ended up doing nothing. Granted, my situation was less concrete than yours - there's no ambiguity here, she's into you. All you have to do is keep doing what you're doing. You're most certainly in.

She's that into me?

 

Though you do have a point of thinking yourself into anxiety. I definitely don't want to over think this.

 

And yeah, I don't have a clue. This is all extremely new.

Yeah man, I think she's being pretty forward with how she'd like this to go.

 

Arrange date 3, stat. Make out with her (for real this time).

 

1) Gently, yet with conviction, pull her in close to you via the small of her back. Maybe even one hand on the back of her neck/rear of her jawline. After making out for a while, move on to kissing collarbones/neck/earlobes.

 

2) Lift up her shirt, kissing her ribs, making your way down to her belly button, then unbutton/unzip her pants.

 

3) Keep moving south

 

4) a little further south

 

....

You can do this.

Hah, step-by-step instructions. Though I don't think that's the kind of stuff I can do outside.

 

What I need to figure out is what I'm going to do to her when I see her this week.

 

Like should I go for a real kiss right when I see her?

 

Something else that I thought about is if I should tell her about my inexperience. Frankly I don't have a clue how to do a real kiss. I don't want to end up disappointing her.

[Els]

Dammit. I never thought I'd find so many Quote-Of-The-Week-worthy quotes on a SD thread...

[tman666]

Something else that I thought about is if I should tell her about my inexperience. Frankly I don't have a clue how to do a real kiss. I don't want to end up disappointing her.

 

I wouldn't bring it up.

 

Besides, there are plenty of very "experienced" people who suck at kissing/sex, etc. Intimate moments like that are just as much about how she's reciprocating things as it is about your own "skills". Just go with the flow, do what feels right. That's what physical chemistry is all about: less thinking, more doing.

[ThaWholigan]

I don't think the inexperience is anything you have to share right now. Personally, I tend to be a bit of a revealer at times, but that's because I decided to get comfortable with it. You don't have to do that, you can just continue on. If you want to open up a little, that's fine though - whenever you decide to do that. But right now, you just wanna carry on with things.

 

And if anything, some girls can tell if you're inexperienced and probably don't care anyway . How do you think I even got laid??

[Els]

Oh, no, it's really too early to bring up your inexperience. Don't lie if she asks, obviously, but otherwise, huge no-no IMO.

 

There is a time and place to have conversations like that. Date #3 really doesn't sound like the time or place.

 

Also, SD, I'm really glad that you've tried to do right by this girl so far. You've said a lot of rather troubling things about how you intend to handle things with a woman, and I'm truly glad it all seems to be just the bad mood talking, rather than who you genuinely are. It's a really good sign that you've been honest and forthright thus far with this girl, and sets you up way better for the potential of long term.

[xxoo]

Like should I go for a real kiss right when I see her?

 

If you feel inspired, YES! Passion is sooooo HOT!

 

Something else that I thought about is if I should tell her about my inexperience. Frankly I don't have a clue how to do a real kiss. I don't want to end up disappointing her.

 

Don't think. Feel. Your lips touch, your bodies press, your mind shuts off, and you feel it.

 

Keep in mind, a kiss is a mutual kind of thing. The kiss is half her creation.

 

She won't be disappointed. She wants a kiss from you, not a perfect kiss.

[KathyM]

Hey guys.

 

We had a text conversation that turned out to be a little bit more than I expected.

 

First I'll go back till Thursday after our date. Shortly after I got home, I told her over text that there was something I wanted to talk to her on the phone the next day about, that it wasn't anything serious, but I wanted to say it on the phone.

 

During our texting last night she told me that back then after I told her that, that she could barely sleep and was waking up every two hours. That she had no idea what I had in mind. And that it's the anticipation that kills her.

 

So she had completely built up something in her head. What or why I have no idea. That happening to her seems really odd.

 

We got to this topic because last night we were talking about the kiss and I told her "There are some things I could tell you about myself but since you are so intuitive, I think it would be more fun for you to figure them out as we go along." After I said that she brought up last week and then almost begged me to tell her what I was thinking about. So I told her that it was just something very minor and it hardly matters, but she still wanted to know. And I just told her that I'm very excitable, and that the drive home was very uncomfortable. Of course that disappointed her and she already had an idea based on something I had previously said.

 

Then the rest of the night, she kept asking me to tease her again and asking me to tell her something else. But honestly, I have no idea of what she wants to hear. She also said she'd tell me something about her if I told her something about me.

 

It was getting late and my head was hurting and I said that I had a long day and needed to go to sleep.

 

This was her reply.

 

All right, I'll let you off just this once. But just to make your head spin, after you kissed me and blurting out that i had the feeling it was going to happen, I was left with the feeling wanting more and wishing you had really gone for it and really kissed me. Sleep on that. Good night. Sweet dreams

 

Then I replied " He he, you're so bad. Now how am I supposed to fall asleep?"

 

So yeah, apparently she wanted tongue.

 

?

Not necessarily tongue, but a real kiss. Not just a few short pecks on the cheek or the lips. I did try to tell you that she wanted that. I would suggest not trying to build up something in her mind with comments like "There is something I need to talk to you about" and then putting off the discussion. That has an ominous tone, and is not likely to go well. People start jumping to negative conclusions when comments like that are made. And please be careful what you disclose about yourself to her. You want to come across as a fun guy, a guy who loves life, an interesting guy, and one who is desirable. No confessions about your tendency to get friendzoned or anything that would put you down. Don't put yourself down, or make yourself sound unsuccessful. When the conversation comes to your past, let her know that you've been very selective with who you date (which is true), so you don't have a history of several failed romances (which is true).

[FitChick]

Don't say you are inexperienced. At most, say you haven't dated a woman you've been so attracted to in such a long time that you feel a bit awkward. If she starts stroking your chest and puts her hand under your shirt, you should do the same to her.

 

When you get to the point you both want sex, tell her to put the condom on you because you find it very hot. That way you won't fumble if you are nervous and too excited.

 

Start watching lesbian porn (preferably directed and produced by lesbians) to find out what women like sexually. The porn produced for men is a joke.

 

Watch massage videos. A great way to get a woman excited and relaxed before sex.

 

You should probably masturbate before your dates to give yourself more control. Remember Ben Stiller in There's Something About Mary? Get out the Macy's lingerie sale ads!

Edited June 2, 2013 by FitChick

[KungFuJoe]

SD,

 

Now is about the time you should take a huge step away from LS and do things based on how you feel and what.

 

Honestly...the best part of first relationships is the exploration and discovering things on your own. On your OWN. Coming here for more advice is like watching a new movie with a whole bunch of people whispering in your ear about what they THINK is going to happen next.

[TheBigQuestion]

Didn't read the whole thread, but congratulations Mr. Somedude.

 

I leave you with this.

 

The Waterboy You Can do it All Night Long YouTube2 - YouTube

[LittleTiger]

I'm with xxoo and KungFuJoe, now is the time to start 'feeling' your way through this - your own way!

 

The start of a relationship depends so much on the two people involved and the dynamics between them. Nobody can, or should, tell you what happens next. It's your love story (hopefully) and you need to write it between the two of you.

 

By all means come back and let us know that it's going well, (because it will ) but you will need to take a step back from here and let nature take its' course. Everything that's happened so far was all your own doing. Keep up the good work and it will all work out just as you hope.