KungFuJoe Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 If it ends up hot and heavy simply say "Things have been rough, and I hope you won't think less of me cause I am really attracted to you, would it be a problem if we didn't sleep together tonight?" This is golden. (would it be a problem if we didn't sleep together tonight?) Like I was saying...... Link to post Share on other sites
Woohoo Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 If it ends up hot and heavy simply say "Things have been rough, and I hope you won't think less of me cause I am really attracted to you, would it be a problem if we didn't sleep together tonight?" This is golden. (would it be a problem if we didn't sleep together tonight?) Continued due to no edit... Then tease her, "Oh, you aren't attracted to me?" (big smile!) "Oh man, this is how it all starts! Next thing we know it all ends up in the friendzone" (she will reassure you she is attracted to you) "So I'm an attractive man?" (sly grin) Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 "So I'm an attractive man?" (sly grin) There shouldn't be any need to fish for compliments. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Good job, SD. I think this really is the turning point for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 (edited) SD - it seems like you're not comfortable having sex so early, but you want to manage it without any awkwardness? No offense to Woohoo - I think he's been great at giving you help and support in the past - but the conversation he mentioned sounds really, really off-putting. IMO there shouldn't be any need for such explanations. It's date 3, you're not an old couple with the girl asking why you haven't been interested in sex recently, for chrissakes. Keep it light, go with the flow. If you want to steer things firmly away from the friendzone without having sex yet, go for a romantic approach with sexual undertones, not an overtly sexual approach. You can still escalate the physical contact a lot, without making a move for her breasts or butt or pussy. Edited June 1, 2013 by Elswyth 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Congrats! I am curious if the girl is exactly what you have been looking for. Is she a college girl around 19-22 y.o? Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 One thing I'd really like to do is take her salsa dancing. Though it's a late night activity and the club I go to is in my city. Needless to say, it's the perfect setup for her to stay the night. But I think it's still too soon for that. There is a salsa club close to where she lives, but that means I'll be doing a 45 minute drive back home at 11 pm. So I'm at a loss for now. 11.45pm too late??? lol. Don't let the thought of dropping her off at home at midnight put you off when it comes to pushing forward on this. At your age you should still be coming home at all hours in the quest for pussy. If you think going out dancing with her will be a great date, then do it. Gulp down some Red Bulls at the salsa club. Walk on the wild side and come home after 12. I thought I would see a post from Negative Nancy saying she's in love with a new guy, and men are actually pretty good and her days of cynicism on men are over, before I thought I would see this. This is a great thread, especially when I read this is a girl you are really keen on. Congrats. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 The salsa dancing sounds great for a third date. Keep building the attraction, and building the romance. Don't rush into sex, but build the momentum with passionate affection. Don't cheapen it by bringing in sex too early on. The goal is to build a relationship, and you do that by getting to know each other on an emotional/romantic level initially. And I agree with the poster that suggested twice a week dates. If you make it only once a week, it won't feel as much like a relationship to her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Remind me to go buy a lottery ticket. Of course, on the same day this thread was posted Freddy Garcia threw an 8 inning shutout. So, miracles can happen I suppose... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 1, 2013 Author Share Posted June 1, 2013 Thanks so much for the input people. No I won't have any issue going out late with her, especially if she wants to be out. For now I'll just seen how things go. So I should start planning on having two dates a week? Is it too early to plan some stuff in my city? Or should I keep driving to meet her? We haven't even made out yet so I think it's still too early to think about sex. Though I should probably by some condoms since they last batch I had expired... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Thanks so much for the input people. No I won't have any issue going out late with her, especially if she wants to be out. For now I'll just seen how things go. So I should start planning on having two dates a week? Yes. Is it too early to plan some stuff in my city? Or should I keep driving to meet her? Go ahead and plan some things in your city, and wherever else there are fun things going on. We haven't even made out yet so I think it's still too early to think about sex. Though I should probably by some condoms since they last batch I had expired... Definitely too early for sex, but make sure you have those long and passionate make out sessions to build the momentum and build the passion. And do buy some new condoms. Don't be without protection, but let the relationship build. Don't rush into sex. Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted June 1, 2013 Share Posted June 1, 2013 Don't plan things like "2 dates a week" or anything like that. Just go with the flow. And you have the right attitude on sex. Let it happen naturally but always be prepared and safe. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Is it too early to plan some stuff in my city? Or should I keep driving to meet her? IMO it would be best to wait til exclusivity, perhaps a couple more dates, before alternating the driving - I'm probably a little old-fashioned , but I think it reflects well on you to be the pursuer early on. Also there might be safety concerns if she was driving 45 minutes home alone past midnight - if you were in her locale you could stay out as late as you liked without such concerns and send her home, plus then the ball is in her court to decide when to invite you in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 IMO it would be best to wait til exclusivity, perhaps a couple more dates, before alternating the driving - I'm probably a little old-fashioned , but I think it reflects well on you to be the pursuer early on. Also there might be safety concerns if she was driving 45 minutes home alone past midnight - if you were in her locale you could stay out as late as you liked without such concerns and send her home, plus then the ball is in her court to decide when to invite you in. She lives with her parents so she will never "invite me in." If it's a late at night activity in her area, I will always be driving home. Though I'll take your advice for being the pursuer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) When is date number 3? You do need to get date number 3 arranged asap - don't give things a chance to go off the boil! Edited June 2, 2013 by LittleTiger 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 When is date number 3? You do need to get date number 3 arranged asap - don't give things a chance to go off the boil! Seriously! You know how long a few days is in hot girl time...?! Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Seriously! You know how long a few days is in hot girl time...?! In English please? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 We haven't even made out yet so I think it's still too early to think about sex. Though I should probably by some condoms since they last batch I had expired... I'm sorry.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 In English please? Physically attractive women naturally get more male attention, so men often need to act decisively and quickly so as to not lose the girl to another man's courting attempts. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Physically attractive women naturally get more male attention, so men often need to act decisively and quickly so as to not lose the girl to another man's courting attempts. That was exactly my point! Oh wait! You were agreeing with me?! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 That was exactly my point! Oh wait! You were agreeing with me?! Stranger things have happened... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author somedude81 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Share Posted June 2, 2013 Hey guys. We had a text conversation that turned out to be a little bit more than I expected. First I'll go back till Thursday after our date. Shortly after I got home, I told her over text that there was something I wanted to talk to her on the phone the next day about, that it wasn't anything serious, but I wanted to say it on the phone. During our texting last night she told me that back then after I told her that, that she could barely sleep and was waking up every two hours. That she had no idea what I had in mind. And that it's the anticipation that kills her. So she had completely built up something in her head. What or why I have no idea. That happening to her seems really odd. We got to this topic because last night we were talking about the kiss and I told her "There are some things I could tell you about myself but since you are so intuitive, I think it would be more fun for you to figure them out as we go along." After I said that she brought up last week and then almost begged me to tell her what I was thinking about. So I told her that it was just something very minor and it hardly matters, but she still wanted to know. And I just told her that I'm very excitable, and that the drive home was very uncomfortable. Of course that disappointed her and she already had an idea based on something I had previously said. Then the rest of the night, she kept asking me to tease her again and asking me to tell her something else. But honestly, I have no idea of what she wants to hear. She also said she'd tell me something about her if I told her something about me. It was getting late and my head was hurting and I said that I had a long day and needed to go to sleep. This was her reply. All right, I'll let you off just this once. But just to make your head spin, after you kissed me and blurting out that i had the feeling it was going to happen, I was left with the feeling wanting more and wishing you had really gone for it and really kissed me. Sleep on that. Good night. Sweet dreams Then I replied " He he, you're so bad. Now how am I supposed to fall asleep?" So yeah, apparently she wanted tongue. ? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
atman. Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 girls want everything at a very quick pace. too bad i didn't realize it until i was in my forties. girls also prefer guys who don't talk that much. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Wow somedude, she seems really into you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tman666 Posted June 2, 2013 Share Posted June 2, 2013 Hey guys. We had a text conversation that turned out to be a little bit more than I expected. First I'll go back till Thursday after our date. Shortly after I got home, I told her over text that there was something I wanted to talk to her on the phone the next day about, that it wasn't anything serious, but I wanted to say it on the phone. During our texting last night she told me that back then after I told her that, that she could barely sleep and was waking up every two hours. That she had no idea what I had in mind. And that it's the anticipation that kills her. So she had completely built up something in her head. What or why I have no idea. That happening to her seems really odd. We got to this topic because last night we were talking about the kiss and I told her "There are some things I could tell you about myself but since you are so intuitive, I think it would be more fun for you to figure them out as we go along." After I said that she brought up last week and then almost begged me to tell her what I was thinking about. So I told her that it was just something very minor and it hardly matters, but she still wanted to know. And I just told her that I'm very excitable, and that the drive home was very uncomfortable. Of course that disappointed her and she already had an idea based on something I had previously said. Then the rest of the night, she kept asking me to tease her again and asking me to tell her something else. But honestly, I have no idea of what she wants to hear. She also said she'd tell me something about her if I told her something about me. It was getting late and my head was hurting and I said that I had a long day and needed to go to sleep. This was her reply. All right, I'll let you off just this once. But just to make your head spin, after you kissed me and blurting out that i had the feeling it was going to happen, I was left with the feeling wanting more and wishing you had really gone for it and really kissed me. Sleep on that. Good night. Sweet dreams Then I replied " He he, you're so bad. Now how am I supposed to fall asleep?" So yeah, apparently she wanted tongue. ? And she just threw the gates WIDE OPEN for you man. Holy crap. I see lots of gushy gushy wet wet in year near future. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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