onthemend Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Hi, I have moved from the having an the having an affair forum to this one! I really thought that I'd done so well in stopping seeing the married man and would meet Mr Right. Well maybe I have, but i am sooo suspicious. I could do with some advice please! I met the new man about 3 weeks ago at a trade show. We have met up once since then ( he lives about 1 and a half away from me) We spent the day together and had dinner then we got a taxi back to his B&B where I left him and went home. Since we met we have text-ed and spoken quite allot. He has been the one to instigate calling as I don't wish to appear pushy. He called on Saturday and we spoke for about 15 mins about stuff but he didn't mention seeing me again so I came out with it and asked him if he wanted to meet up - I jokingly said that I shouldn't be the one asking. He said that was OK and asked me what I wanted before he replied. I said that I would very much like to hook up again and he agreed. I said that he didn't have to say that to make me happy and I would understand if he didn't want to (a get out clause for him). Anyway we agreed to meet up at some stage early this week. I haven't heard from him at all - no text nothing. Should I call him or wait. this is doing my head in
Papillon Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Ah...you're suspicious he's a MM. Yep, nothing breeds distrust like distrust. You're just going to have to shake the tree and see what falls out. I do hope you've learnt your lesson, and stopped ****ing around with MM's. If this guy turns out to be married, just walk away, ok? Promise me? Pretty please sugar on top?
Author onthemend Posted October 5, 2004 Author Posted October 5, 2004 Hi Papillon, No I don't think he's married (well I sincerely hope he isn't - i have learn't my lesson!) No - my worry is that I have really quite fallen for this man but can't help wondering if I am leaving myself open to being hurt again. He is incredibly good looking and is 40 in November. He says he hasn't been married or had children. This is the problem - is he just a player. I suspect this might be the case. I am 2 years older and have been married and divorced and have 2 children. He says this isn't a problem - maybe it is and this is why he hasn't called me???? Anyway, thanks for your post - should I call him and find out whether we will be meeting up again?
Papillon Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Only way to find out if he's a player is to allow yourself to be played. That's the way it is. You cannot go into love suspicious. That's not love, that's cold war tactics.
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